Does My Gender Matter?
Does gender matter when it comes to glorifying God?
Are we created, as women, to uniquely glorify God through our womanhood?
Does our gender matter?
I think it does. God is never random; His plans are always filled with purpose. When God stated his plan to create the first woman, He used a description for us that is beautiful in the Hebrew (but sounds pretty lame when it’s converted into English).
Both men and women are created with equal worth and value, given equal access to God, and the mission of glorifying Him.
But when God created woman, He designed a woman to serve others as a . . . “helper?”
Just seeing that word on paper: “helper” always looked so inferior to me. It looked pathetic. When I first learned that women were created to be a “helper” I thought, “Oh, great. We aren’t good enough to actually be doing something really important—we just get to ‘help out.’”
My perspective completely changed when I found out that the Hebrew word “helper” is not a wimpy word. That’s when I realized that being a “helper” was not an insignificant assignment but one of eternal consequence. God didn’t create woman to fill a “no big deal” role.
The Hebrew transliteration for “helper suitable” is “ezer kenegdo.” Think of kenedgo as “an essential counterpart.” We play an essential role as women and we do that by reflecting the “ezer” nature of God.
“Ezer” is the same word used in reference to God as a “helper” to His people.
An ezer is someone who is “for you” an ally, someone who comes alongside to nurture and bring strength. It is being an iron-sharpening friend. An ezer is a life-giver.
A woman’s design as an “essential strengthening counterpart” is not exclusive to married women. It is not a “role” but it is actually how we’re wired. We’re designed by God to come alongside others and nurture them.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you go to have coffee with that young mom who is about to throw in the towel on mothering and you share some practical counsel and encouraging words that fortify her to press on.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you pause to listen for a bit and pray with the teen who sits sullenly on the back pew of your church.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you come alongside your husband after he’s had a challenging day on the job and let him know how much you appreciate him.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you encourage a friend to take some hard steps of discipleship.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you share the gospel with your coworker.
♥ You are being an “ezer” when you die to self to “give life” to others.
How is God asking you to glorify Himself by being an “ezer” today?read more
Welcome! I’m glad you’re spending a few moments with me here. It is astounding to think that in this small corner of the blogger world, women from across the globe can experience the adventure of growing together in Christ. I never planned to grow up and be a blogger but writing blogs allows me to disciple more women than I would ever have opportunity to actually meet.
My reason for writing is that I have to. This driving impulse to communicate God’s reality and goodness to others is like a burning fire. Because of who He is, the desire for others to know and love Him consumes me. He is my passion and I don’t want to waste a single day, but cram each moment full of living all out for His glory. I long for the day when all will know that He alone is God.
Kimberly Wagner is married to her favorite pastor, LeRoy Wagner. Their children include Caleb and his wife Lindsey; Rachel and her husband Adam, and their daughter Teagan.
Kim’s passion is Christ, and she desires to ignite women’s pursuit of God’s glory. She is a frequent guest on the Revive Our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the True Woman blog and the Beyond BathTime blog. Kim has written several devotionals and resource materials for women and loves encouraging women to become students of the Word.
A dream was realized when I attended the first True Woman Conference in 2008. I’ll never forget looking around at thousands of women, freely worshipping God together, embracing their calling as women, and thinking, He’s doing it, He is birthing this movement!
In the late 1990s my friend, Nancy Leigh DeMoss, gave me two books that made a significant impact on my life. True Woman by Susan Hunt and The Feminist Gospel (later revised and entitled The Feminist Mistake) by Mary Kassian. My eyes were opened to how the feminist philosophy has permeated our culture and what a loss we’ve experienced as a result.Read more