How’s Your Home Life?

How’s Your Home Life?

Do you like learning new words? Let me throw one out you may not hear too often—Domesticity. A general definition of domesticity is “a devotion to home life.” Perhaps “domesticity” sounds to you like a dreary home economics term from the ‘50s. Sorry, that perspective is entirely too narrow.

Domesticity includes activities like:

  • Midday picnics on the back lawn with your toddlers
  • Hosting a neighborhood Bible study
  • Spontaneous midnight excursions to Waffle House with your teenagers
  • Leaving surprise love notes in the car seat or in lunch boxes
  • Family game nights
  • Planting a vegetable garden as a family project
  • Pillow fights!
  • Nightly readings of The Chronicles of Narnia with your kids
  • Family reenactments of favorite plays, movies, or Bible stories
  • Camping out in the living room in tents!

True domesticity might mean putting off vacuuming in order to spend a “girls’ day out” with a teenage daughter who’s beginning to retreat into her own world. It can mean stopping in the middle of laundry to help your third-grader memorize multiplication tables. In our fast-paced, overly scheduled, stress-filled world, families are in desperate need of true women embracing the virtue of domesticity—being truly devoted to their homes.

Domesticity isn’t limited to the married, or to moms, but is a virtue for all women. Domesticity needs to be cultivated and routinely practiced by widows, singles, empty-nesters, and self-proclaimed “messies.”

Home is more than the four walls that encompass your living space. As you practice domesticity, the home can be your primary vehicle for displaying God’s presence and His glory. It can be a central location for ministry to occur through hospitality, in providing a safe and welcoming environment for loved ones and visitors to retreat in times of need.

Home: The place where those who cross its threshold experience the presence and ministry of Christ as though He were greeting them with a loving embrace and bending to wash their feet.

“She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness” (Prov. 31:27).

I’d love hear from you! If you have positive memories of home life, please share things that were meaningful.

Adapted from my True Woman blog post: 07.06.09



  1. Posted by Kathryn

    So many wonderful memories – my mother was (and still is) a beautiful woman – highly intelligent, very organized, excellent bible teacher and so very domestic. I remember a very clean and beautifully decorated home with so much hospitality. We always had house guests from around the world. I loved listening to missionaries talk about their work in foreign countries, medical doctor’s from the four corners of the earth came to work with my dad who was a highly skilled surgeon…..wonderful food, music – so much music, books- of course the bible but so many classic books in the library, riding horses in the country, picking vegetables from the garden and learning to can or freeze food. Learning how to sew, cook, and run a home. Our home was peaceful. This sounds almost perfect and magical….and it really was but please know that we were not a perfect family. There were many trials – an absent father due to his career, anorexia and bulimia struggles. Throughout the difficult times my mom was always the center of the home and such a steadying, loving force. May it be so for all of us that love Jesus – to look to Him for His grace and may we have the grit to embrace domesticity. I have always shared that my mom was gifted with a secret fruit of the spirit – the gift of inconvenience(!!) – she will inconvenience herself to help her children, grandchildren, members of the church whenever it is needed. She is an amazing woman and cherished greatly. “She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Prov. 31:27


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