The Reproof I Desperately Need

The Reproof I Desperately Need

In one sense, I’m really not a fan of reproof. It is hard to have your eyes opened to ugly blind spots; to see some real selfishness that you didn’t even realize existed in the crevices of your heart; to have the “light turned on” and expose some gruesome realities that were hiding in the shadows. But at the same time, I love reproof. I don’t want to continue operating with the...

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You Need Something More than Studying God’s Word

You Need Something More than Studying God’s Word

I’m giving a shout out to diligent students of the Word. I have a critical announcement to make: You need something more than a thorough knowledge of Scripture! During the darkest season of our marriage, my husband experienced a crisis of faith. He watched me consistently studying Scripture, but “knowing the Word and loving God” wasn’t impacting me when it came to how I treated him. I was...

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Pursuing Love

Pursuing Love

Okay, I’m going to make a crazy counter-cultural statement here (which is kind of typical for me). Love is NOT the result of a spine-tingling infatuation with someone of the opposite sex. No, true love is birthed through humility. The pursuit of love can only come by traveling the road of humility.  Love is not self-seeking, thus love must be birthed through humility. At the bowing of the...

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Changing the Default Position

Changing the Default Position

Changing the Default Position  In the early years of our marriage, my husband and I were both operating in pride. If anyone would have suggested “pride” as an underlying root issue, we would’ve quickly defended our actions and pointed the finger at the other partner as the source of the problem. Pride will be the natural default position unless a couple learns to recognize it and battle...

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How do You Handle an Insult?

How do You Handle an Insult?

I was young. A novice. I’d done my best, worked into the late night hours for weeks, poured out my heart on paper . . . and waited for the response. The harsh critique left me stunned. Sent me to my knees. But not before my pride was piqued and I was tempted to lash out in hurt. Now that I look back now on that incident, I’m thankful for my instructor’s tough response. It really was good...

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