Preparing a Safe Place for the Abused

Preparing a Safe Place for the Abused

Still the nightmares come. She knows the Word better than most. She’s committed to Christ—wants to live as a faithful woman of God—but her heart is weary and doubts assail her as the onslaught of horrific memories and pain continues . . . for years. For decades. And I want to be more than just a praying friend. I want to “fix it,” but I don’t have that power. Only One does.

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Lifting the Cover on Sexual Abuse

“Will I need to stand in front of the church and confess that I was hospitalized in a mental health facility?” At first I thought she was joking. She was not joking. She was dead serious. And when she asked that—I knew our church had failed. We had failed her terribly. The church adds to the trauma of sexual abuse when men and women are afraid to come forward, afraid to share their story, and afraid to confess that they no longer want to live. That’s when it is obvious that we, as a church, have failed the broken and hurting.

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How a Reverent Woman Guards Her Conversations

It was the neighbor ladies’ typical gab session, and it must’ve been getting pretty juicy because my grandmother shooed me out of the house promptly when she noticed my wide eyed interest in what they were saying. It made quite an impression on me. I remember her distinctly saying, “You’re too young to be listening to this!” and she pushed me out the door into the hot summer sun on the front porch.

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A Reverent Woman is Not a Slanderer

We’ve all experienced the damage that slander can bring. Probably everyone reading this post has been impacted, in some measure, due to slander. It may not even be that we’ve been personally slandered—perhaps our parents, our husband, our pastor even, has been the target for slander . . . and that has resulted in a course change for our lives. We’re continuing in our study of Titus 2:3 and have reached a word of instruction that every woman needs to hear loud and clear:

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Fears that Drive our Attitudes and Decisions

When I was on a prayer call with a friend this week, she mentioned that she was needing to make an important decision, but she didn’t want her decision to be influenced in any way by fearing how people would view her decision. I’m so glad that she is conscious of that and is watchful for that. The fear of our peer’s opinions is a trap we must watch out for—daily. It’s important to understand what it means to “fear the Lord” because if we’re not functioning under an active practice of fearing God—we will be making decisions driven by other fears. Below are a few that are a common struggle:

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