I Don’t Love You

I stared blankly out the car window at traffic passing by through the lazy intersection. Outwardly I displayed no shock. I was past that. Finally, he’d voiced the words I instinctively knew and felt for some time.

“I don’t love you.”

So this is it? Five years into a union that held high hopes for marital bliss and this is where we are?! My conversation was internal. Outwardly, a long silence followed the crisply delivered words. What was there to say or add to his announcement?

I looked at the beautiful result of a wildly romantic night in Wichita Falls—our little girl. Watching her sleep contentedly in her car seat, I wondered how long it would take this newborn to discover that no love exists between her parents.

Divorce would not be an option for us. I knew that.

So, where does this leave us?

What’s “Plan B”?

You’ve been reading an excerpt from Fierce Women. When I look back now to those years of hopelessness, I’m amazed that God did exactly what His word describes:

Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us . . . (Ephesians 3:20).

Your husband may’ve spoken those same painful four words, “I don’t love you.” You may’ve given up all hope for your marriage or even be facing life now as a single woman. I want to encourage you by reminding you that God sees, He knows and He cares. And, don’t lose heart—I’ve seen Him do some amazing things.

I’ve seen Him bring beauty from ashes. I’ve watched him restore marriages that were severed by infidelity, by pornography and self-centered living. I’ve seen Him take two immature sinners and begin the process of refining to grow them into one glorious trophy of His grace. We’ve experienced His transforming work in our own marriage and continue to be blown away by how much we love and appreciate one another now in contrast to where we were for several years.

Don’t lose heart, dear friend. Our God is willing and able to work. He is our King of Old accomplishing works of deliverance and salvation throughout the earth (Psalm 74:12). Go to God with your sorrow. Ask Him if there’s anything you need to confess to Him or your husband. Ask Him to open your eyes to anything you’ve done that would hinder reconciliation or to reveal anything you need to do to aid the process of reconciliation.

How do you need to cry out to God today?