She’s a beautiful woman of God. She’s passionate for Christ. She’s devoted to Him and His Truth. She’s committed to living under the authority of His Word.
She’s fierce . . . and she strikes TERROR in the hearts of those who know her!
Hmm . . . this description is true of many Christian women I know, but I don’t think “striking terror in hearts” is really what Jesus has in mind for His soft warriors.
I have a precious friend, I love her dearly . . . but she and I often laugh about how easily our FIERCENESS can get out of hand if we’re not pressing into the Potter’s hand to be softened by His grace.
We are to be women of the Word—but never use the Word as a club.
We are to speak the truth—but always deliver it with love and grace.
We are to take a stand for righteousness—but never be obnoxious in our delivery.
We are to be valiant warriors for Christ—but humble servants as well.
If a woman is fearful of sharing with you her broken life, how she struggles with sin, or that she’s messed up again—if she fears your reaction to her confession—then perhaps your “prophetic stance” (as in Truth telling with a capital “T”) may need to be toned down a bit. How can you fulfill your role as a Titus 2 woman if the women who are coming behind you are hesitant to share with you and will not reach out for your input?
If you think this could be you, ask God to give you a winsome spirit that is inviting to those who are needy and allows them to feel safe in coming alongside for gracious instruction from you.
Wisdom coupled with a winsome spirit are characteristic of the beautifully fierce woman and it allows her to fulfill her role discipling younger women because:
* Others feel comfortable in seeking her counsel.
“Words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious, while the lips of a fool consume him . . .” (Ecclesiastes 10:12)
Are your words gracious?
Is your demeanor compassionate with those who are lost, needy or less spiritually mature than you?
Are you approachable?
Does your truth-telling bear fruit?
Do your words encourage others to spiritual growth and godliness or do your words discourage and shame them?
“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.” (Ephesians 4:29)
If people tend to cringe when you say, “Can we talk?” perhaps consider whether your fierceness may need a bit of softening under the work of grace.
Check out the contrast between the Beautiful versus Destructive Fierce Woman here.