Plunging Into Death

When a woman is convinced that she knows what’s best for her life, when she feels vulnerable and unprotected, she usually takes things into her own hands and forges ahead despite the risk. That’s exactly what Eve did. She operated under the delusion that God was withholding something good from her—that He was untrustworthy. She feared she was missing out, and her husband left her totally unprotected as she was in the throes of temptation.

Turning her back on God, she took a giant leap of independence. She plunged head-long into disobedience and took the rest of her daughters down with her (that’s you and me). We may want to lay the blame on Adam’s passivity, the serpent’s subtlety or temptation’s power, but Eve is responsible for the choice to commit treason against her Faithful Creator.

Rather than serving her husband well as his helpmate, she influenced him to join in her corruption:

So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise,she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. (Genesis 3:6)

Life stops.

Death begins.

If we were watching this scene in vibrant Technicolor, at this point I’d expect to see the dark shadows of black and white flow from the freshly bitten fruit, covering and gobbling up each color-tinged pixel, like a wave rolling across the field of vision until all color is obliterated by charcoal shades of grey, with drab bits of white. Everything in Paradise is changed.

For the first time, fear enters the garden:

And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. (Genesis 3:8)

The ruling couple stands shivering in shameful fear of their Creator. Instead of enjoying a fun day together, seeking out new adventures and running to greet the Father, darkness invades their relationship and they run for cover.

Rather than bringing freedom and the promised God-like power, their disobedience has introduced the first couple to craving’s bondage. Their exposure to sin has forever marred them and they will never be the same. Every marriage since that day has groaned under the effects of their fall.

Eve may have opened a Pandora’s Box, but thankfully—that’s not where the story ends!

The shadow of the cross falls upon the guilty pair as the first blood is shed—a sacrificial animal, slain to provide garments to cover man’s nakedness. This redemptive act points to the Lamb “slain from the foundation of the world” whose holy blood would serve as man’s only atonement (Genesis 3:21; 2 Corinthians 5:21; Revelation 5:6–14).

You may not be aware of it, but God is involved in your life. He sees you. He knows what you’re facing today, and He cares. He desires to speak to you through His Word, to communicate His truth, to give encouragement and guidance. He longs to have fellowship with you. He delights in bringing beauty out of the ashes of broken marriages.

Because of Christ’s redemptive work on the cross, because grace flows when we humble ourselves and cry out to Him for help—we can give and receive love the way we were created to experience. You, who are restless and weary of heart, find your heart’s rest here. Christ offers true love to you. You may never have known or even imagined a love of this proportion. We, who are helpless, can find our need fully met in this Man.

Have you received this grace?

I’d love to hear about it!

Excerpt from Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior © 2012• Kimberly Wagner • Moody Publishers


  • Victoria

    “When a woman is convinced that she knows what’s best for her life, when she feels vulnerable and unprotected, she usually takes things into her own hands and forges ahead…”
    Insert picture of me just a few years ago here ^ God, by His amazing, perfect, faithfulness and mercy rescued me from this aweful pit! There is nothing like trusting Him completely and being married has offered new ways to grow in this. My marriage has had BIG issues from the very first days. After a few years of suffering miserably I stumbled upon True Woman, although I mentally agreed that the manifesto was true, I could not let go of my “self-protective equal rights” mentality. It seemed impossible to me that my “role” was to be my husbands maid when God had blessed me in so many other ways! Oh the pride! I am so thankful that God did not let me sit in that stinky pile of sin. God continued to work in my life and did bring me to the point of fully trusting His perfect design and walking in the fullness of Truth. I wish I could say that I learned to be a godly wife and my husband was transformed or that our marriage became a source of greater joy than pain. But that is not what has happened (yet). My husband is still in great bondage and the temptations to lash back at him are great, and somedays I fail. BUT, the depths of love, peace and freedom I experience as I follow God’s perfect design have brought me from a place of loving Christ in emotion to loving him with my whole self and that is beautiful! In that sense (the closeness to Christ I experience) my marriage is a great source of joy. I look forward to the day when my husband and I can share that joy together.
    Bless you for your ministry!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Dear Victoria,

    Thank you so much for sharing your testimony here. I love hearing how God is at work in people’s lives, and it is encouraging to hear how you’ve responded to His promptings. I appreciate your honesty and am joining you now in prayer that your marriage can be a source of joy that will bring God great glory!

  • Victoria

    Thank You! You are such a blessing! I love the way you reflect the love of Christ with your genuine love for His people.