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Jesus Loves Fierce Women

When I think of a beautifully fierce woman, I’m reminded of a woman who kept pressing in when life’s tough challenges hit her in the face. Imagine going completely outside of your comfort zone to make an urgent request and then being referred to as a dog—not by enemies—but by Jesus! This is one of those times in Scripture when Jesus really surprises me. I mean, He didn’t respond like the normally tender, holding-a-child-in-his-lap-type of Jesus. No, this time He puts some huge road blocks in this needy woman’s path. (Kind of like He does with me sometimes.)

This woman had a real problem on her hands. Her daughter was demon possessed. There’s no greater misery for a mother than watching her child suffer. Knowing she has no way to alleviate her daughter’s pain, powerless before the torment and destruction, this mother looks beyond herself for help.

I love the fact that I can relate to this woman. She’s in extreme need and she’s not a member of the religious elite—she’s a Gentile. For religious Jews, a Gentile woman was the lowest on the significance scale. But the one thing she has going for her is she recognizes Jesus for who He is and trusts His heart.

We find her story recorded in Matthew chapter fifteen:

And behold, a Canaanite woman from that region came out and was crying, “Have mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is severely oppressed by a demon.” But he did not answer her a word. And his disciples came and begged him, saying, “Send her away, for she is crying out after us.”

He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.” (vv. 22–24)

Jesus ignores her at first, and the disciples try to get rid of her. When He does speak, it isn’t the tender words she’s heard from His lips when other people came for His help. Instead, it seems as though He puts up a wall of rejection. But none of this stops her. She is desperate in her need and relentless in her pursuit:

She came and knelt before him, saying, “Lord, help me.” (v.25)

A simple prayer lifted from a heart of worship. This is the cry of the true woman. This is the humble dependence of the woman who delights His heart. This is the faith and persistence of the beautifully fierce woman.

And he answered, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs.” (v. 26)

No matter how rough His words may sound to you, he was not being mean. Really. He was laying out a challenge for her to rise and meet. He doesn’t use the word for dog that would refer to a common mongrel roaming the streets, but a dog that is a house pet. Although His response may seem cold or offensive, He was letting her stretch her trust level and plunge in fully to demonstrate her faith by laying out some difficult obstacles:

She said, “Yes, Lord, yet even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters’ table.” Then Jesus answered her, “O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire.” And her daughter was healed instantly. (Matthew 15:27–28)

I love it! Jesus puts up walls of resistance but she passes the test and He loves her reaction. No argument from her. Yes, an undeserving dog. She doesn’t deny His humbling assessment, but she also doesn’t run away to drown herself in a tearful pity-party. She presses in and appeals to His merciful character. She looks beyond the slight, pushes past the rebuff and goes for His heart.

This is the beauty of fierceness that I admire in women. This is a woman at her best. She’s not using her strengths to take advantage of others. She’s not using cruel manipulation tactics to get what she wants. She’s not arrogant in her approach and demeanor, nor is she groveling in self-condemnation or self-pity. She’s tackling the obstacles in her life with humility and determination. She’s resourceful and creative. She’s walking by faith, not by sight.

And Jesus loves her for it.

This is the kind of woman who grabs onto the hem of His garment and won’t let go. She’s beautifully fierce.

If this is the kind of woman you’d like to become, I encourage you to read Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior.

Excerpt from Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior © 2012• Kimberly Wagner • Moody Publishers

 

64 Comments

  • Jody Gates

    “Grabs onto the hem of his garment and does not let go,” is one of my favorite lines in this book which I bought and reviewed several weeks ago on my blog. Would love a free copy to give away!! Loved this book.

  • Victoria

    This was beautiful! I love to share your blogs on FB. This may be my favorite one! I already have a free copy. Thank You! God Bless you!

  • Denise

    I shared your link on my facebook. Several women in our church have been discussing your book since True Woman ’12. I would love to receive a copy. Thank you!!!

  • Sarah Sneath

    I have shared this on Facebook! I would LOVE a free copy! I am working on starting my own blog and would love to do a book review. My husband and I have been listening to your series on ROH together. It has led to many wonderful times of talking! Thank you for sharing!!!

  • Krysta

    Kim is one of the sweetest women I know!! Her journey to becoming a Fierce Woman is encouraging every time I hear or read about it. I shared this blog post on my facebook page, may I PLEASE have a copy of her book???

  • Karen Kennedy

    I love Kimberly’s writing! Have only been a fan a few short months, but she has impacted my life. I am presently leading a group of GMG Bible study on Colossians. I am going to share on my Bible study page, too! Thank you for offering this kind of teaching to anyone and everyone. What a tremendous blessing~

  • Sarah Bex

    I saw Kimberly Wagner at the TW12 conference, love her and want to read this book!!!!
    I shared this on my facebook page!

  • Beth Quinn

    Sharing this for all my friends to see on my FB page. Can’t wait to get a copy of Kim’s book! Thanks.

  • Leanna

    I shared this on twitter and pinterest. I would love a copy! Heard about this book on ROH and have been wanting to read it.

  • Winona

    I appreciate what God has done through Kim’s life and would absolutely love a copy of this book! I hope other women will be encouraged by my posting this link on fb. Thank you!

  • Kristin Williams

    Sending this to my FB friends- would love a free copy- sounds like something wonderful,encouraging and convicting!!! Looking forward to the read!

  • Jo Yungerman

    As I continue to learn, this is becoming a favorite book and blog. I’m learning how to use my fierceness for His Glory! I shared twice now on Facebook–thank you!

  • Amy Walker

    I am so convicted by reading this little introduction to the book. To often I fall prey to the control and manipulation from the curse of the fall. Looking forward to being challenged to becoming a beautifully fierce woman.

  • Tanya

    Posted – thank you for the free copy offer. This subject is near and dear to my heart! Women can be so very powerful, good and bad.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Wow, Ladies! Your response blew me away. Thank you for getting the word out about Fierce Women. If you find the book helpful please recommend it to others and show your appreciation to Moody by posting a review online.

    We are closing today’s offer, but please keep reading we’ll have more giveaways throughout the month.

    Please join me in praying for women who read the book. May God raise up a mighty host of women who will glorify Him through their womanhood and whose marriages will display the beauty of the gospel.

  • Hollie Hollenbaugh

    I would love to get the opportunity to read such a powerful and Spirit-led book! I shared the link on my Facebook page 🙂

  • Angela

    I shared this link on FB. Listened to Kim & her husband on Revive Our Hearts. Looking forward to reading this book. Thanks for the free offer!

  • Carolyn Cousar

    I was excited to hear about this book as well. Our ladies went to the True Woman Conference a few weeks ago, and we were truly blessed to be a part of it. I would love to receive a free copy of this book; it sounds awesome! I shared your link on facebook just now.

  • laurie

    I have shared this link on my Facebood page. I beleive this would make a great small group study for us women ! I have not seen a topic like this before- meaning one that does not focus on submission and gentleness. Don’t get me wrong, this is scriptural, I just beleive it can take a different form when circumstances call for it. These circumstances are a part of our everyday lives out in “the jungle” and even in our homes 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello, Hollie!

    So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon (maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hi Angela!

    Thanks for sharing this link on facebook! So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon (maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Wow, Vicki!

    That is a great idea. You might want to check out the price at Amazon right now, I believe they have Fierce Women on sale. So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon to receive a gift copy(maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Carolyn~

    I am so glad your group attending TW 12. What an awesome time that was! Thank you for sharing this link on facebook. So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon (maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Wow, Thank you,Colleen for sharing on both those media sites! So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon (maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Kelly,

    Thank you for helping us spread the word about Fierce Women. We hope many women will be encouraged though this blog and the book to press in more deeply in their love relationship with Christ and with their husbands. So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon (maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Laurie~

    Oh, I hope you will do the book with a small group! That is a great idea. You might want to check out the price at Amazon right now, I believe they have Fierce Women on sale. So sorry the offer closed before you got your comment in, but please keep reading the blog–we’ll be running similar offers again soon to receive a gift copy(maybe tomorrow?)!

  • Mia Smith

    Hi! I shared this on Facebook when the offer for the free book was going on, and never got an email or heard anything. Is there something else I should do? So excited to read the book! 🙂 Please let me know!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Amanda,

    Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry the offer closed before we received your comment, but please check back this Friday (10/26/12) when we’ll be running another offer. If you would like to have the opportunity to win a free copy, share Friday’s blog post on your facebook page, twitter feed, or on pinterest.

    Leave a comment on Friday’s blog post letting us know you’ve done that and 3 of those leaving comments will be chosen by the site administrator to receive a gift copy of the book.

    Hope to hear from you Friday ~ I want you to win a gift book from Moody! 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Mia ~

    Thank you for sharing this post on Facebook. I’m sorry the offer closed before we received your comment, but please check back this Friday (10/26/12) when we’ll be running another offer. If you would like to have the opportunity to win a free copy, share Friday’s blog post on your facebook page, twitter feed, or on pinterest.

    Leave a comment on Friday’s blog post letting us know you’ve done that and 3 of those leaving comments will be chosen by the site administrator to receive a gift copy of the book.

    Hope to hear from you Friday ~ I want you to win a gift book from Moody! 🙂

  • Telda Peskett

    Heard great things about your book. I have posted on FB and I look forward to a copy so that I can read it myself. Thank you for this generous offer.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Telda ~

    Thank you for sharing this post on Facebook. I’m sorry the offer closed before we received your comment, but please check back this Friday (10/26/12) when we’ll be running another offer. If you would like to have the opportunity to win a free copy, share Friday’s blog post on your facebook page, twitter feed, or on pinterest.

    Leave a comment on Friday’s blog post letting us know you’ve done that and 3 of those leaving comments will be chosen by the site administrator to receive a gift copy of the book.

    Hope to hear from you Friday ~ I want you to win a gift book from Moody! 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Lori ~

    Thank you for sharing this post on Facebook. I’m sorry the offer closed before we received your comment, but please check back this Friday (10/26/12) when we’ll be running another offer. If you would like to have the opportunity to win a free copy, share Friday’s blog post on your facebook page, twitter feed, or on pinterest.

    Leave a comment on Friday’s blog post letting us know you’ve done that and 3 of those leaving comments will be chosen by the site administrator to receive a gift copy of the book.

    Hope to hear from you Friday ~ I want you to win a gift book from Moody! 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Mia ~

    We realized that we missed you somehow in the original group that posted before the offer was closed! I hope you’ve received your book by now ~ the folks at Moody assured me you were being sent one! 🙂

    I hope you’ll join me in praying for women who will be reading this and please let me hear how God uses the book in your life!

    Blessings!