Your role as helper is to aid your husband in becoming all that God has created him to be—to be “his iron sharpening iron” (Proverbs 27:17). Deep down every true man of God wants to do the right thing, he wants to be the spiritual leader, he wants to live all out for God’s glory; he doesn’t want to waste his life. When all is said and done, he wants to hear those words, “Well done faithful servant.” He wants you to be able to believe in him, to be able to say with all sincerity that you are confident in his leadership because you know he’s a man who walks with God.
You may be thinking “Not my man—his biggest dream is Sunday afternoon football with no interruptions!” Maybe that’s all you can see from the outside, but don’t discount your power of influence, as a Spirit-controlled woman, to fuel his passion for Christ.
This is no job for weak-willed women. It takes intentional dependence on the Spirit, immense self-control, and wisdom from the Word, to learn the difficult art of challenging your husband to godliness without demeaning him. To encourage him to continue pushing the envelope in spiritual growth without nagging, belittling or preaching.
Often when wives exert the strength God placed within them, the husband caves to passivity or rises in aggression. I’ve seen the pattern repeated far too frequently and watched it squeeze the life from many a vibrant relationship. I personally experienced the damage in my own marriage. But it is possible to reverse that trend. I want to encourage you to apply yourself to learning the delicate art of inspiring your husband to press in to spiritual growth. I’ve written down my thoughts on a few ways to do this. If you’re interested in checking it out, click here to download the pdf: Challenging Your Man to Robust Christianity.
Portions of this post are excerpts from Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior © 2012• Kimberly Wagner • Moody Publishers