Two Kinds of Desires

Every day, lonely women connect with potential lovers via the Internet’s many social media sites. Other women try to stifle their longing with food, prescription drugs, or some other addiction. I’ve spoken with women who’ve turned to alcohol, cutting, masturbation, even crystal meth to satisfy their longing.

The drive to fill your life with pleasure isn’t wrong. But attempting to replace Jesus, the Living Bread, with substitutes is like filling your mouth with gravel (Prov. 20:17). I encourage you to read through the descriptions below and consider whether you are feeding desires that will enslave you or cultivating desires that will lead to fruitfulness.

Desires that Enslave You:

  • spring from self-centered thoughts and motives
  • are shrouded in secrecy or fulfilled under the cover of darkness
  • can lead to crossing lines that go far beyond God’s clear direction
  • carry with them a fear of being caught while gratifying them
  • have an addictive pull
  • require layers of justification based on your “unique” situation or perceived “need”
  • are “all about me”
  • prevent sincere worship

Gratification of these desires:

  • involves anything that is morally corrupt, spiritually perverted, and physically harmful or addictive
  • leaves you with feelings of guilt and shame, but always hungry for more
  • brings harm to others

In contrast to the desires of the flesh and the destruction they produce, Galatians 5 describes the fruit produced by the desires of the Spirit as: “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control . . .”

Desires that Lead to Fruitfulness:

  • spring from God’s passion for His glory
  • can be openly shared with others
  • lead to fulfilling God’s purposes for your life
  • carry with them a profound sense of joy and anticipation for the future
  • are cultivated by abiding in Christ
  • are beyond ordinary
  • are “all about His glory”
  • lead to worship

Fulfillment of these desires:

  • may involve hard work, long hours, blood, sweat, or tears
  • brings spiritual growth and greater freedom
  • inspires others to gain a closer walk with Christ

If you recognize yourself in any of the descriptions which bring enslavement, please call a godly friend who will speak truth into your life. Ask her to pray for you and hold you accountable.

If you leave a comment below, we’ll be praying for you, too!

Adapted from my True Woman post: 9.25.2011


  • Kristina

    Confessing my sin to another that I might be healed:
    About 2 1/2 months ago my Lord Jesus brought conviction to me that I am a glutton. I have replaced one idol (cigarettes)for another (food).

    I have a desire that is enslaving me and it is shrouded in secrecy and being fulfilled under the cover of darkness.

    I get up in the middle of the night to eat. More times than not it is peanut butter sandwhich or crackers.

    I also have found myself eating during the day when I am not even hungery.

    I have gained a lot of unwanted weight and have had to get rid of a lot of my clothes and get new ones. This is an expense that I would not have had if I had not replaced idols but demolished them.

    This stronghold idol will be destroyed by the blood of the Lamb and the word of my testimony as I live wearing the full armor of God by the power of God that raised Jesus from the dead living inside of me as I take each thought captive and make them obedient to Christ!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Kristina ~

    Thank you so much for sharing with us. I hope every woman who reads your comment will stop and pray for you. I love your approach: “This stronghold idol will be destroyed by the blood of the Lamb and the word of my testimony as I live wearing the full armor of God by the power of God that raised Jesus from the dead living inside of me as I take each thought captive and make them obedient to Christ!”

    I agree totally 🙂

    Two books that I think you might find helpful as you walk through this journey of “smashing your idols” are:

    “Idols of the Heart” by Elyse Fitzpatrick

    “How People Change” by Timothy Lane and Paul David Tripp

    And did you read yesterday’s post? Craving Fresh Bread? You might find that principle helpful, too, asking Jesus to use your physical hunger as a trigger for spiritual hunger.

    Pausing to pray for you now ~

  • Kristina

    Kimberly, you said in Craving Fresh Bread:
    I bowed my head to silently plead with Him.

    “Forgive me, Father. Please Lord Jesus, every time I crave bread, let my craving be turned to You instead. Use this denial of physical bread to deepen my hunger for You, the Living, Eternal Bread of Life . . .You are my Bread!”

    I am borrowing your prayer and making it my own.
    I am so thankful that when I have made confession to my Father about my sins, which includes the sin of gluttony and any other sin brought into The Light, He has been faithful and just to forgive me and to cleanse me of all unrighteousness.
    I am also thankful that today is a brand new day and His mercy is new. I have choosen to seek first His kingdom while feasting on His Word and drinking in His presence. What a privilage and honor to be a child of the Most High. May His kingdom rule and reign in and through us today!
    I will see about finding the books you recommended. I know this trial will bring much transformation and glory to Him!