What is a Relationship with God?

What do you mean when you say you “have a relationship with God?” 

I like talking to people who ask this question. I love visiting with women who haven’t yet discovered what they need most. But I’ve never had anyone ask me that question out of the blue—that only happens after they’ve first heard me mention my relationship with God.

In case you’ve wondered how to share the gospel with your coworker, that family member that doesn’t understand your faith, or a new friend, here are a few of my suggestions:

Don’t be surprised if they view your faith as odd

Don’t take an adversarial stance when sharing the gospel. People in need of a savior’s rescue (aka—“lost people”) should be approached with compassion. We have a saying at our church: Expect lost people to act lost. Don’t place expectations on them to understand what you’re talking about when the conversation turns to spiritual things.

Remember what 2 Corinthians 1:12–14 says about that?

That’s why it is so important to ask the Holy Spirit to open your mouth and their ears!

Don’t be in a hurry

This conversation can be spread over a period of time—especially if it’s with someone you don’t know well but will be having regular contact with in the future. Don’t approach sharing the gospel as a “sales job.” Your motivation should be compassion for them (they are in a needy condition), and the desire to see Christ exalted in their life.

Be patient, be prayerful, and especially, be loving.

Start off on the same page

I like to start with something we can both agree on. Like the fact that they exist. No, seriously—they may not know whether God exists yet, but there is usually no argument about whether they exist! If you’re talking with someone you’ve just met, ask about their background: where they were born, grew up, went to school. Gently lead into heart issues by asking about their driving motivation in life; what they are passionate about.

You don’t need to voice this, but you’re helping them express what they’re living for, and ultimately, what they believe is the reason for their existence.

Ask leading questions

Do you think there is such a thing as a “Creator” and if so, why do you think you were created? Why are we here? Do you think you’re here for a purpose?

Share the gospel by sharing your story

Don’t argue with their opinions, but let them know you believe your purpose is to have a relationship with God and through that relationship (and enjoyment of Him) others will see evidence of His reality (in your own words of course).

Let them know that God created mankind and desires to be in a personal relationship with us (there’s more to it than just that, but this is enough to start with). God wants us to know Him, so He has actually communicated His reality through the Scriptures, where He’s told us some of His story and also the history and future of all mankind.

Tell them God provided moral laws for man to follow (the ten commandments), but obviously we aren’t “good enough” because we’ve all broken at least some of these commandments.

God knew we couldn’t follow His laws on our own—He knows we’re in a needy condition. We’re in fact, broken. Even when we want to do what is right, our basic nature is selfish and self-centered. That’s because we’re all sinners—all of us. Basically none of us are “good.”

God created us to be in a relationship with Him even knowing we would choose to act independently of Him (a very simple way to describe sin), but that separates us from God. And that’s why God had a rescue plan before He even created earth’s first molecule. His rescue plan was to take on flesh so He could step in and take the punishment we deserved. The consequences of sin is spiritual and physical death, but God showed us mercy by sending a Deliverer—Jesus Christ.

Insert your personal story along the way as you share these truths from Scripture. Let your friend know how much you were in need of rescue and how grateful you are to have a relationship with Christ.

Your transformed life will be the most compelling evidence to those who don’t know God or even believe He exists.   

You may not see a positive reaction right away, but as you are a faithful friend, a diligent and helpful co-worker, a considerate family member—you are demonstrating the power of the gospel, and when they are at a desperate place in their life, they’ll reach out to you. Often that is the point when they recognize that yes, they need the Deliverer.

There are many ways to share your faith . . . this is just a simple example of how to begin.

How about you? I’d love to hear stories of how you’ve shared Christ with others and how they’ve responded!