I could name off dozens of women right now who are walking through extremely tough things. Seasons of unending loneliness, the heartbreak of a prodigal child, the loss of a marriage, a husband’s infidelity, a husband’s porn addiction, a child with a terminal illness . . . I could go on and probably you could, too. In fact, you may be in one of those tragic circumstances right now.
You may be enduring a winter of suffering with no hope for spring. You may be there from no choice of your own and are facing loss because of the sinful path another has chosen. But no matter how you entered this season of adversity, you did not enter it alone, and you do not walk it without purpose.
Adversity is an unwelcome friend but make no mistake, adversity is our friend.
That may sound like an oxymoron . . . a ridiculous assertion or perhaps a typo. You may be thinking I left out the word “not” or got confused and inserted the wrong phrase after my conjunction, or chose the wrong predicate noun to complete the sentence.
Make no mistake, adversity is our friend.
That’s why James tells us to rejoice when we enter the winter of suffering:
[box]“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds . . .” (James 1:2)[/box]
He goes on to describe the intended outcome of adversity: steadfastness and spiritual maturity.
James also explains the difference between temptation and testing. Temptation never comes from God and is never for our benefit. Testing however, often in the form of adversity, is for the purpose of spiritual growth and ultimately for God’s glory.
I love this promise for seasons of suffering:
[box]After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you. (1 Peter 5:10)[/box]
When we fight against the process, when we choose to harden our hearts or rail against God’s intentions, when we proceed through adversity with a victim mentality rather than as a student of God’s ways . . . we’ll miss the benefits of adversity.
In the storm, through the winter of suffering, in the face of tragedy, that is when God desires for us to come up closer to Him, to reach a new level of trusting Him, and to allow Him to do the work of establishing and perfecting that He knows is needed.
What is your season of adversity that you are facing right now? What is God teaching you as you walk through the storm?