Death Words

Do you have a tape recording in your head filled with phrases from your childhood? Even though he’s been gone since 2010, I can still hear my dad call out my name and some of his inspiring words still bring encouragement. Words are a lasting and powerful form of influence.

Proverbs really nails it when it says that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue . . .”

I’ve spent the past month focusing on mothering or ways to disciple children. Nothing probably affects children more than how we speak to them. Although I’m moving on to a new topic on the blog (our communication), perhaps nothing is more powerful in our parenting than our words. As you read the next several posts, although they aren’t specifically written to “moms” I hope you’ll consider how to apply them in your parenting (or grandparenting!), because your words will probably affect your child more than anyone else’s.

Here’s a few questions to get us started thinking about how we’re using our tongues (in any relationship):

♥  Do you plan for your daily communication? Do you think about how you can use your tongue to bless those you’ll be speaking with (especially your family members!)?

♥  Do you “guard your mouth” or do you let whatever comes to mind fly out?

♥  While in conversation, are you lifting up silent prayers for discernment and direction to know how to answer, how to bless, how to encourage?

♥  Are you known as an encourager?

♥  Does the fruit of the Spirit affect how you speak to others?

♥  What Scripture best describes your typical verbiage?

♥  Could this be said of you?

♥  What Scriptures have you adopted (or will you adopt) to help you with your communication?”

Let’s pray for one another today in this area. May we have Ephesians 4:29 types of conversations today:

[box]”Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”[/box]

I would love to hear any of your answers or thoughts!


  • Kay

    Kimberly, Thanks for this post today. It’s a good reminder not just to think before I speak, but to “plan for your daily communication.” I like that. I posted about speaking today too. Less, specifically! Have a blessed day!

  • Melissa Hudnell

    I think this is an area that continually needs nurturing no matter what our age. Principles I have attempted to apply I’ve realized can also be put into practice by my children. The one we’ve really been focusing on lately is this: Before you speak, stop and think – is it true, is it kind, and is it necessary? We sure can avoid a lot of troubles even if we just camp out on the “is it necessary?”! So much of our jabber just really isn’t necessary or useful at all! Thanks, Kim, for bringing this to the forefront of our thoughts!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Kay ~

    Good to hear from you, thanks for taking the time to stop in and leave a note. Hope your.summer is off to a beautiful start!

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Melissa!

    So glad to hear from you, friend 🙂

    Thanks for posting your comment . . . so good! I hope other readers adopt your suggestion: evaluate whether it is true, kind, and necessary, before speaking. Love it!

    So thankful you are training your children to live out this principle!

    Blessings ~

  • Vivian Etherington

    Interesting that our message on Sunday morning was about the tongue! So, in our care group Sunday night we were discussing this topic. Someone said the very same thing Melissa posted about filtering what we are going to say–is it true, kind, necessary? We really focused I on the fact that ” out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.” Really what we say reveals what is in our hearts. In fact, the title of Sunday’s message was” The Inside Informant”
    So, I spoke up in care group about how essential it is for us to be thinking on, meditating on Scripture so that is what will come out of us!