HALT!

The power of the tongue is amazing. No wonder Proverbs observes that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue . . .” (Proverbs 18:21). Sadly, I’ve often used my tongue and unintentionally crushed a loved one’s spirit.

There’s a principle—the “HALT!” principle–that I wish I had known as a teen, and especially as a young bride. Practicing it would’ve saved me from countless conflicts, I’m sure. Here’s how it works in relation to our tongue. Restrain your words (or more bluntly—shut your mouth) and delay conversations when you are:

H – Hungry A – Angry L – Lonely T – Tired

This works for all relationships, but as an example, you may be tempted to unload the frustrations of your day on your husband as soon as he walks in from a long day on the job.

Push pause.

Although you may be bursting at the seams to vent, be sensitive to the fact that your man may be tired. He may have faced many challenges through the course of his day, as well. Grant him time and grace to relax, refuel, and recharge, before entering a conversation which will require much energy.

This principle is not for “sweeping things under the rug” or for avoiding difficult conversations, but should be used as a protective device for times when it would be best to delay a conversation with heavy content which could lead to conflict or emotional meltdowns.

Ask Him for the grace to HALT! before speaking . . . after all, one of the fruits the Holy Spirit produces in us is self-control (Galatians 5:22-33)!

Care to share victories you’ve had from using this principle?

Originally posted 04.06.10 at www.truewoman.com.



  1. Posted by Gaye Goines

    I love the halt principle, Kim! I had never heard this before, but I will be using it and sharing it with others!! Thanks!!!


    • Posted by Kimberly Wagner

      Oh, I’m so glad to hear you’ll be doing this, Gaye! Wish I’d known it years ago . . . it really is simply practicing the fruit of the Spirit: Love, patience, and self-control, in our conversations.

      Good to hear from you, friend!


  2. Posted by Sarai

    Thank you Kim. God bless you.


  3. Posted by Sarai

    Y Thank you Kim. I really needed this. God bless you.


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