True Friends

Do you have friends who point you to truth? Friends who offer the comfort of God’s grace when you are hurting? Do you you feel safe confiding your heart to—knowing they will go to God alone with your struggles? I am eternally grateful for friends like that—they are gifts to me from the Father.

Women are normally wired to be social creatures. When there’s exciting news to share, heartbreak, disappointment, or the need of a shoulder to cry on—we usually turn to a friend.

Within the Titus 2 passage there is a valuable word of exhortation that should be a vital aspect of our friendships:

[box]“Encourage the young women to . . .be sensible” (verse 5).[/box]

Sensible . . . did you get that? Sounds a little boring, doesn’t it?

Rather than boring, this one little word is packed with meaning. It’s the Greek word, sóphrón: to be of sound mind, self-controlled, temperate. To operate with this mindset is to use wisdom—taking the knowledge of the Word of God and applying it practically to the demands of daily life in order to live life to God’s glory.

To be a “sóphrón” woman means that your behavior is directed by God’s truth rather than driven by your emotions.

Ouch! Now He’s getting personal . . .

When faced with challenging circumstances, the tendency for most women is to react, not in wisdom, not “sensibly” but to react with our emotions! This is where being a Titus 2 friend can be helpful. I have a few friends that I turn to when I know I’m not operating with a “sóphrón” mindset, and my request is: “Speak truth to me.”

Do you have friends like that? Are you this kind of friend to others?

Next week, I‘ll share some characteristics with you of a “Titus 2 Friend.”