Loneliness is deeply painful because it is a foreign condition. We were not created to operate in a vacuum. We were created for rich, deeply personal, iron-sharpening-iron, robust and meaningful friendships. We were made to enjoy and even be challenged by the daily give-and-take of love relationships.
From the earliest moments in history, God relays to us this principle of man needing relationship. God emphatically states that “It is not good that the man should be alone . . .” (Gen. 2:18)
In this conversation, God reveals to us (the readers of Genesis) His plan to provide man with an intimate confidante. The woman was created to be his closest companion and loyal friend. Marriage provides the opportunity to experience a supreme form of friendship, but whether we are single or married, male or female, the need for friendship is deeply rooted in who we are.
[box]“And God said, Let us make man in our image . . . after our likeness . . .” (Gen 1:26)[/box]
Nothing else in creation is given this designation of being created in God’s image. You as a woman, me . . . we are created in His likeness, His image . . . we’re created to IMAGE GOD—to bear His reflection.
- Image: a physical likeness or representation of a person or thing, appearance of an object, as is produced by reflection from a mirror . . .
You may be thinking . . . “Look like God??” What does God look like? Well, we can see what He is like when we observe Him interacting with His creation, and one of the first characteristics we can recognize is that God is relational.
The Relational God
What else do we see about God in the Genesis narrative? He gives us His name, not in a singular form, but in plural.
“Let us make man in our image . . .” notice the words: us and our.
These two words have tremendous significance and impact for us as women. They reveal to us that God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, exist in a triune community; the Trinity operates in a holy, pure, relational fellowship—experiencing perfect love with One another and sharing perfect love with us in relationship. And the Trinity provides us with a beautiful model for friendship.
Being created to “image God” we are created for relationship. A significant characteristic that we’re to reflect, being created in His likeness, is this aspect of relating in community.
Just as within the Trinity there is a mysterious holy fellowship, we are created for deeply satisfying, intimate fellowship in community with others. The trinity is our basis for understanding love and fellowship. This is the foundation for all friendships.
Love is the satisfying antidote to loneliness and is the basis for meaningful friendship.
Do you know someone who is lonely? How can you reach out in love to them today?