The Most Influential Man in Your Life (You Might Be Surprised!)

(Guest Post by Paula Hendricks)

I don’t know you personally, but I can narrow the most influential man in your life down to one of two men. I don’t have a glass ball, and I haven’t stalked your Twitter account, but I know because these two men have been the two most important men in my life, too.

Even though I let you in on lots of guys who have impacted my life over the years in Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, these two men have shaped who I am today infinitely more than Mike, Neil, Jack, Edward, and Jim.

The crazy thing is, no two men have been more impactful in your story, either. No, I’m not talking about your dad or your crush (important as they are!). I’m talking about Adam and Jesus Christ.

How Adam Shaped Your Story
Adam lived thousands of years ago. You probably already know he was the first man God created! You can read the highs and lows of Adam’s story here. You might think a man who lived so long ago has nothing to do with your life today, but you’d be dead wrong about that. Romans 5:12 shares how even now Adam impacts your life:

Just as sin came into the world through one man [Adam], and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned.

If you want to throw tomatoes at Adam right about now ’cause he blew your chances at a sinless life, think again. The end of Romans 5:12 makes it clear that “all sinned.” Romans 3:23 confirms it: “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”

There’s no doubt that Adam was the most influential man in your life. His story shaped your story. The question is . . . is Adam still the most influential man in your life or is Jesus Christ.

How Christ Can Transform Your Story
Romans 5:15–19 shares some amazing news:

[box]But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man’s [Adam’s] trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. . . . For as by the one man’s [Adam’s] disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man’s [Jesus’] obedience the many will be made righteous.[/box]

It’s true that Adam’s story was your story. But Christ Jesus wants to transform your story by giving you new life—His life!

When you are born again in Christ, you receive a brand-new identity. Everything changes—everything becomes new—beginning with you.

Your identity is not volleyball captain or sci-fi nerd or piano prodigy. Your identity is either wrapped up “in Adam” or “in Christ.” And the implications of that identity are huge.

Eternal. Forever.

Which man has been—and is—most influential in your life? Are you in Adam or in Christ?

Leave a comment answering the question and we’ll choose one of you to receive a copy of Paula’s book: Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom.

Originally Posted at Paula’s blog: 10.03.13


  • Doni

    I’m so thankful that I am Christ’s child. He is the most influential in my life, although daily I have to choose to walk with Him rather than give in to self. Thankful for God’s great grace!

  • Paula Hendricks

    Good morning, Kimberly! Thanks for sharing these posts on your site this week.

    I wanted to paste a follow-up link to this post here in case your readers have the same questions: Here’s why:

    As I read your comments on last week’s post “The Most Influential Man In Your Life,” I realized we weren’t speaking the same language. Several of you made comments like,

    “I am in-between both of those characteristics: Adam and Christ. Some days I give into the world, other days I live my life for Christ. It is a never-ending battle.”

    Here’s the thing: Being in Christ is less about your experience and more about your position in Christ. There isn’t any in-between. You’re either all the way “in Adam” or all the way “in Christ.”

    [You can read the rest here:

  • Kimberly Wagner

    So true, Doni! Thanks for sharing!

    You’ve won today’s contest! The Site Administrator will be in contact with you soon to get your mailing information to send you a gift copy of “Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl.”

    Enjoy the book!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Great Follow-Up Post, Paula ~

    Thinking we may feature that one here, soon, for readers who didn’t read your note about it this morning.

    We’ve enjoyed having you on the blog this week. I know you ministered to a lot of women here!

    Thanks, Friend ~