When You Don’t Know How to Help Her

(Guest Post by Paula Hendricks)

Her situation couldn’t have been more hopeless.

She’d tried it all—filled out endless forms; visited regular doctors, alternative doctors, traveling doctors, wanabe doctors, retired doctors. She’d read, researched, cried, and prayed. She’d taken every medical exam known to man.

And still, over a decade later, no answers. Just steady decline. She was growing worse.

There were simply no options left. No more reserves to draw from. She’d spent everything she had—as well as borrowing money from every compassionate soul she could think of.

Not that she cared about the money. She just longed for a touch. How long had it been now? Twelve years of isolation? Twelve years without so much as a hand resting on her shoulder. Her disease—this never-stopping flow of blood—made her “unclean.” If anyone touched her, they would be defiled.

I know women like her. Stuck. Hopeless. At, or nearing, the end of their rope. Women I can’t touch. Women I long to touch, but I just don’t know how.

Just when hope had run out, someone told her about this man like no other, this man called Jesus. Maybe it was a friend of a friend who relayed what Jesus had taught down by the lake one afternoon. Maybe someone in her family knew a neighbor miraculously healed by Him. No matter . . . someone had told her about Him.

And that was all it took. She heard with ears of faith. At least enough faith to do a crazy, daring, courageous thing—she elbowed her way to the front of that noisy, jostling crowd to get to Him. To touch Him. She knew she was out of line, but sometimes desperate women take desperate measures.

The instant she touched Him, she knew. She was whole. Healed.

His words confirmed it:

“Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace, and be healed of your disease.” (Mark 5:34)

She didn’t know it yet, but this Jesus was going to bleed for her. God, in anticipation of what Jesus was going to do for her on the cross, had declared her whole.

And still He heals and makes whole.

Leave a comment below and we’ll choose one of you to receive a copy of Paula’s book: Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom. 

Originally Posted at 06.03.13


  • Bethany

    I am so grateful that Christ makes us whole and doesn’t leave us to try and do it ourselves. His love and grace amaze me and I am so glad that He will always be there for me, especially when I am at the end of my rope. He is my hope!

  • Helen Johnson

    This is so timely. I was studying this passage in my Matthew study this week. I am amazed by her faith, but I had not thought about that ” this Jesus was going to bleed for her.” It is all about the cross! In Matthew 8:17 the chapter before this, it says ” He Himself took our infirmities and carried away our diseases.”

  • Caroline

    How crucial that somehow she heard about Jesus. How crucial that we spread the word about Jesus. Even if we see no response from the person we tell it to, that person could mention it to someone else and so on until it reaches someone who will see Jesus as his/her last hope and run to Him and be healed. <3

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Bethany ~

    How true, I could never heal myself. He is our only hope! Thank you for sharing. You are today’s winner of our give away! The site administrator will be in contact with you soon to get your contact information to send you Paula Hendricks’ new book!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Helen ~

    Thank you for taking the time to send in your thoughts. I’m studying Matthew right now, too. I love watching Jesus’ very personal interactions with those who were in great need. He not only came to die for us, but spent time giving individual attention and care all along the way to the cross. His victory over death (through His resurrection) provides hope for every dark day we face!

    Thanks for stopping in to connect!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Caroline ~

    Oh, how true! Thanks for sharing that thought today! How did she hear about Jesus? The same way those around us who are in need must hear about Him . . . through those of us He has rescued. We must let them know that He is their only hope!

    Thank you for dropping by to leave a great comment!