Will You Take the Titus 2 Challenge?

What are you?!”

I looked a bit perplexed at the cashier’s question.

She pointed to the group of about 20 women making their way back to our “vehicle convoy” on the parking lot of the small convenience store. “Oh,” I smiled, “we’re traveling to Denton to attend a women’s conference together. This is some of our church family!”

As she checked out my items, the woman (probably in her late 60s), continued: “I’ve never seen anything like it. Teenagers and senior citizens laughing and talking together . . . You all seem to enjoy being together . . . “ Shaking her head, she repeated, “Never seen anything like it.”

That was a good reminder to me to appreciate what has developed within our church body.

Although our nation has experienced a growing social disconnect between the generations over the last several decades, the Titus 2 model breaks down those barriers.

With more than three decades experience as a pastor’s wife, I am clearly convinced that women are in desperate need of discipleship. Many of the young women I meet with have no godly role models in their lives; several were raised in a single-parent home, some without a mother in the picture at all.

I want to issue a challenge to you today. This challenge is not for the faint of heart, but neither does it require that you become a theological scholar. It will require diligence, time, consistency, compassion, confidentiality, humility, and a strong dependence on God’s grace.

The Challenge
Pray and ask God to lead you to a young woman in need of discipleship. Be willing to make a short-term time commitment (three to six months). Provide the space in your life to meet with her on a regular basis, preferably weekly, for one to two hours.

You don’t have to do a Bible study together or develop lesson plans for discipleship—there are many ways to pour truth into a young woman’s heart while at the same time sharing practical life skills.

I once invited a single, 24-year-old young woman (who was raised by her single father) to help me prepare Thanksgiving dinner. She wanted to learn things in the kitchen she’d never had the opportunity to watch before. We had a blast and she learned a few things as well.

Be creative. Come up with a plan that will work for you and benefit the young woman. Here are a few ideas to consider:

*        Print off good blog articles to discuss over coffee.

*        Do a study together like True Woman 101, or Becoming God’s True Woman, or Lies Women Believe.

*        Offer to show her what you’ve learned about meal planning, grocery shopping, cleaning, time management, etc.

*        Read and journal through one of the gospels, then meet to exchange thoughts and share what each of you are learning.

*        Plan to attend a True Woman Conference together. Better yet, work together to organize a group to attend from your church.

*        Help her find biblical resources that will grow her beyond where she is now.

*        Create a reading list for her based on Scripture passages and Christian books that have benefited you in your spiritual pilgrimage.

*        Be a good listener and selfless communicator, always pointing her beyond you to Christ, her source of grace (don’t claim to know all the answers).

*        Laugh with her easily, and give hugs freely.

*        Challenge her to begin passing on the truths she’s learning to a younger (or less spiritually mature) woman.

These are just a few ideas to get you started. How about it?

Will you take the challenge?

Or perhaps you are already discipling a woman or being discipled. If so, I’d love to hear about what you’re doing. Please share!

Adapted from my True Woman blog post: 11.24.09


  • Sandra

    Someday, I’d love to be able to have the privilege of being under the tutelage of someone who is in my daily life and is willing to invest in spiritual growth and just be a friend (but not make me a “project”). There are so many questions I’d love to ask, so many practical things about following God that I want to learn! For now, however, I know He has given me some good resources for learning – such as this blog, the Revive Our Hearts website, and various ROH publications. I want to be faithful to steward these provisions and know I am to share what I’ve been given with those He places in my life.

    In fact, one of the first things I learned after coming to faith in Christ four years ago was the need to pass on to others the things that God has given me. Language is always a barrier in my overseas life, so my focus has always been my children. A couple years ago, however, God brought a national woman into our home to work as a helper for us. By her confession, she was a fairly new believer and was not permitted by her muslim husband to speak of Christ, own a Bible, or attend church. Since her English-language ability was relatively good, we begin listening to downloaded Revive Our Hearts broadcasts while we made bread each week, and then discussing the topics. Through the recorded broadcasts of ROH, God has been faithful to provide accurate teaching for this national believer, allowing us both to grow together.

    This past year I began homeschooling our children and, with that demand as my priority, I knew I would not be able to devote a large block of time to her during the day. Instead, we have invited her to our school table. Each day, we begin our studies with a short Bible time and she shares in that with us. We read aloud a scheduled portion of Scripture, have a brief discussion (explain the meaning, discuss any terms that are not easily understandable, discuss how we might apply it), sometimes read a short article (such as a post from this blog), and then pray together. With our schedule, we will have read through the entire NT (except Revelation) before the end of the school year. It usually takes about 20-30 minutes each day. We are all learners together and it is a precious time. She often leaves the table in tears for the privilege of hearing scripture and praying aloud.

    I’ve never really thought of this as discipling before I read this article – it seems to me more like facilitating. But the bottom line is that God is faithful to provide a way for His children worldwide to hear and learn. He is not limited by my lack of biblical knowledge and is more interested in my yieldedness and dependence on His grace.

    The faces, interpersonal dynamics, and places may look different in my world than yours, but that’s a glimpse into how God is making discipleship happen on my side of the globe.

    Thank you so much, Kim, for your faithfulness in this blog. It is such an encouragement to me.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Dear Sandra ~

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I can’t tell you how deeply this account encourages me. I needed to read this today 🙂

    I’m thankful to get a glimpse into how God is using you across the globe and I think hearing about the practical (and creative) ways you’ve found to disciple those in your sphere of influence will encourage other women to reach out to others.

    Hmmmm . . . I may just have to copy and post this as a future blog piece, with you as a guest blogger 🙂

    Pausing to pray for you now, so thankful for God’s redeeming grace!