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Are You Alone Today?

If you’re reading this post today, I’m wondering whether you’re all alone. Today is an important holiday in the U.S. A pretty important one, in fact—it’s my favorite holiday. And most will be too busy to jump online and read a blog  . . . unless you’re spending the holiday solo.

If that’s you—welcome, friend. I’m praying for you.

I love that today is set aside to actually focus on giving thanks. When I had little ones at home, I’d have them recite Psalm 100 together before the meal. I’m all about family fun, eating together, playing games, catching up on conversations and staying so long at grandma’s house that you get to do the meal for the “second time around” that evening.

I LOVE THIS HOLIDAY!

But, like I said . . . If you’re reading this post today . . . you may not be experiencing anything like what I’ve just described and it could be that you’re longing for family and community but that’s just not an option, and you’re spending today all alone.

Let me say first of all, I am sorry—I know that can be lonely and painful.

But let me also encourage you with this truth: You are NOT alone. 

If you’ve entered into a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, He is abiding with you. There in the lonely hours, the dark nights, the empty and quiet spaces . . . He abides with you.

[box]Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love. “If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. “These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full. (John 15:9 –11)[/box]

I know you’re probably thinking . . . but I want someone with skin . . . someone who will reach out and give me a hug, will ask how I’m feeling, will talk to me and care about me . . .

Those are natural desires and there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way—unless those desires have become demands that are keeping you from experiencing the joy of your relationship with Christ. If you’re alone today, let me share with you some things I’ve done when I’ve been totally alone on a special day (yes—I’ve spent a birthday or two totally alone and many nights completely on my own).

♥ Look for someone you might reach out to that is also alone today—give them a call and see how you might bless them.

♥ Light a scented candle, put on some of your favorite worship music, and pull out an old favorite to read.

♥ Take part in celebrating the significance of this holiday by starting a “Giving Thanks List”—try to see how many things you can list that you’re grateful for and as you do, lift up prayers of praise for God’s goodness to you.

♥ See if there is a local shelter or ministry where you can volunteer and use this day to bless those who are in need. (On a recent birthday, every single family member was out of town—but I was so blessed by getting to do prison ministry that day).

But the richest times have been when I take advantage of the “alone hours” to spend time just talking to the Father about all that’s on my heart and connecting with Him through worship. If you haven’t had an extended time yet today to do that, I encourage you to open your heart to His now.

He cares, He’s listening . . . and He’ll be delighted to share His heart with you.

How are you spending today?

2 Comments

  • Debbie Bristow

    I have listened to your show on Family Life several times, and will probably keep listening. I have been a fierce women in my marriage and may have pushed him past the point of ever loving me again. But, i have a gleamer of hope after hearing your messages.

    We have a beautiful family, 2 boys that 16 and 14 yrs and a daughter who is 11.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Debbie ~

    Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I’m thankful you have hope. There is reason for hope when we invite God into the situation and are willing to trust and obey His Word.

    Do you have a copy of the book “Fierce Women?” It tells more of our story and provides some practical help in building an intimate marriage relationship. I hope you’ll also check out some of the posts on marriage on this website.

    May the God of all comfort bring you hope and comfort and I pray that one day you will experience the work in your marriage that will bring you much joy and God great glory.

    “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21)

    God’s blessings to you ~