Pulling Back the Shades

Remember my friend who issued the call to prayer for the sexual climate of our nation? If you didn’t read our invitation to join us in battle, hop over here to read that post real quick, and then come back to hear from my friend, Dannah Gresh as she talks about why she and Juli Slattery teamed up to write a book exposing the dangers of erotica.

We’re also giving away one copy of their book every day!!

Read all the way through the post to find out how to enter the contest!

Dannah is a woman of prayer, a precious friend, an advocate for purity, and a clear voice of truth in our generation. Dannah lives in State College, Pennsylvania, with her husband, Bob, and their three children (and LOTS of animals!). She is a bestselling author and co-founder of Pure Freedom. She is also a regular speaker at the True Woman conferences.

Dannah is one passionate woman. She loves Jesus and she loves reaching the hearts of young women for Him! I know you’re going to get fired up just reading her thoughts here!

If you missed the first part of the story, check out yesterday’s post.

Here’s Dannah:

Pulling Back the Shades is a book written in response to another book we never expected you to read: Fifty Shades of Grey. How could this book series have sold over 70 million copies in its first year? And now it’s not just that series being devoured by women, but an entire lineup of copycat books rushed to the market so fast that the BBC reported erotica to be “cannibalizing” the rest of the publishing industry. Erotica is the fastest-selling genre of books selling to women.

We believe that the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey series was a transforming moment that fueled the erotica craze, normalizing its use. The series has done for women and erotica what the advent of the Internet did for men and porn.

Some consider the story of Christian and Anastasia, the hero and protagonist in the Fifty Shades series, to be one of love and healing. Others say it’s degrading and pornographic. There are plenty of opinions on both sides of the debate and no doubt you have yours. But before we dive into our opinions, we have to stop and confess a few things about our initial reactions to the movement.


I, Dannah, was introduced to the book by my husband, who’d been hearing about it in the media buzz. One night he couldn’t take it anymore.

“You’ve got to write about this book,” Bob said incredulously. He plopped a laptop in front of me and pushed play. A Saturday Night Live commercial spoof for began. It was advertising a book I’d never heard of before: Fifty Shades of Grey.

I pushed the computer away and told my husband matter-of-factly, “Oh, honey, I’m not going to write about that. I don’t think that many spiritual women will be attracted to it.”

The next day my mom told me a friend of hers had read it.

The next week a friend of mine told me her seventy-year-old mother had her name on a very long list at the library to get it.

The conversation had begun and it seemed everywhere I turned, a friend, family member, or acquaintance was either reading the books or asking if they should. Some of them specifically mentioned that they were excited that people were finally talking about topics like spanking.

Spiritual women, all of them.

Apparently, as a sexuality expert and relationship coach to spiritual women, I did need to write about this. So I wrote a blog titled “I’m Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey.” It sparked a fuel-fire of controversy with over fourteen hundred women choosing to pound out their opinions, long paragraph followed by long paragraph. Some defended the book and their choice to read it and criticized me for being judgmental. Others applauded me. Many wondered how I could critique it without having ever read it.

But I still haven’t.

What I have read are the stories of countless women who have read Fifty Shades of Grey or other books in the erotica genre. It turns out I was very wrong: spiritual women do read erotica.

Praying grandmas are reading it.

Vibrant young human-trafficking activists are reading it.

Pastors’ wives are reading it.

Homeschooled teenage girls are reading it.

The heads of charitable foundations are reading it.

Missionaries are reading it.

Professors of religion are reading it.

Jews, Muslims, and Christians are reading it.

I thought long and hard before I decided not to read it. While one obvious reason was that I’d already publicly stated that I wouldn’t, another was that I want to dispel the myth that you have to read it to be able to have an informed opinion and engage in the debate. I have taken the time to come at this debate from another angle by engaging in the stories of women whose lives have been impacted by erotica. Email by email, they poured their hearts out. Many of them were brave enough to tell their stories, some of which you’ll read in this book.

My friend Juli took a different approach. (Tomorrow, we’ll hear from her.)

On March 1st, we released, Pulling Back the Shades. You might consider this a double play on words. Not only do we want to pull back the shades of Grey for you to see God’s truth about what it and other books like it can do in your life, but we also want to pull back the shades on your own sex life. This book is not meant to be merely a reaction to Fifty Shades of Grey.

Ultimately it is about YOU—your longings, your questions, and your wholeness as a spiritual and sexual woman. We hope to offer you something you deeply need.

Today we’re offering you the opportunity to win your own free copy of the book. Leave a comment below letting us know that you’ve shared this link on your Facebook page or Twitter account and you’ll be entered into the drawing for a free copy.

Even if you’ve left a comment yesterday, to be entered in the drawing—we need you to post a comment below!

We’ll be drawing one winner per day all week, so if you’re not chosen by midnight tonight (Check the blog in the morning!), then leave a new comment tomorrow and you’ll be entered again!

Adapted from Dannah’s 2.05.14 post at Pure Freedom


  • Nancy Harwood

    I tweeted this again today. Like you, I am surprised at the wide number of spiritual women, especially those in leadership, who are reading this book.

  • Nancy Harwood

    I had deactivated my Facebook account, but just reactivated, at least for a few days, so I could share this. Previously I had shared several blogs about the harmfulness of “Fifty Shades of Gray”.

  • Marcia

    I appreciated that you said you didn’t have to read the book to have an informed opinion. Trash is trash no matter how you look at it.

  • Lynn

    Thank you for being willing to discuss this topic. Thank you for acknowledging that sexuality is a God-given aspect of our design and to share with us the Biblical response to the topic, “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

  • Sheryl

    I’m truly surprised so many christian ladies feel Fifty Shades of Grey would contain appropriate thoughts for their minds. I’m pleased your response is to recognize there is a need that is not being met and hopefully this new book will do just that in an honorable way. I look foreward to reading it then passing it on.

  • admin

    Congratulations, Nancy Harwood! You are today’s giveaway winner of “Pulling Back the Shades.” I have e-mailed you for your mailing address so that we can get this out to you shortly.

    For those of you who have commented and haven’t won the giveaway copy today, be sure to stop by the blog tomorrow and the rest of this week for your chance to win a copy.

    Molly Sipling
    Website Administrator