Communication Tips

Do you have a recording in your head filled with phrases from your childhood? Some women have shared with me that they still hear cruel messages from more than fifty decades ago. My childhood recordings are different than that. Even though he’s been gone since 2010, I can still hear some of my father’s kind and inspiring words and those memories bring encouragement to this day.

Proverbs really nails it when it says that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue . . .”

Words are a lasting and powerful form of influence and that’s one reason we need to get a handle on whether we’re communicating with life-giving or death-imparting words.

In the last two posts, I’ve focused on communicating with others and I’m praying that it’s given you food for thought (and action). I hope I never come across on this blog as having it all down. I don’t. I am still very much in need of growth and God is so patient with me. (His refining process is much gentler than I deserve.) In fact, just this week He’s shown me how much needed growth I still have in this area.

Communication has always been one of those areas where I get myself into trouble . . . and can quickly do damage!

If you struggle with “tongue issues” like I do, I hope you’ll pull up some of the posts on communication from the Archives.

Plus, here are a few questions you might find helpful when it comes to communication:

♥  Do you plan for your daily communication? Do you think about how you can use your tongue to bless those you’ll be speaking with (especially your family members!)?

♥  Do you “guard your mouth” or do you let whatever comes to mind fly out? (This is where I get myself into trouble!)

♥  While in conversation, are you lifting up silent prayers for discernment and direction to know how to answer, how to bless, how to encourage?

♥  Are you known as an encourager?

♥  Does the fruit of the Spirit affect how you speak to others?

♥  Could this be said of you? Or this?

♥  What Scripture best describes your typical verbiage?

♥  What Scriptures have you adopted (or will you adopt) to help you with your communication?”

Below are a few verses on communication that might be good to commit to memory:

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:18)

“The instruction of the wise is like a life-giving fountain; those who accept it avoid the snares of death.” (Proverbs 13:14)

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” (Proverbs 15:4)

Let’s pray for one another in this area. May we have Ephesians 4:29 types of conversations today:

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

I would love to hear any of your answers to the questions above or know what Scripture you’re going to commit to memory!


  • Nancy Harwood

    Kim, this was great. The week of devotions on communications has been a blessing. After reading, I was looking for the verse that says to “set a guard over my mouth”, and in doing that, I found a website I was unfamiliar with, the biblehub (it’s going to be a new favorite). The page included commentaries; the one from “Treasure of David” pointed out that we need the Lord to open and close our mouths; I had only been thinking of it in the negative sense (don’t say what I shouldn’t), but we need his guard also to take the gospel boldly to others. Thanks so much for your blog. I look forward to it daily!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Nancy ~

    Thank you for taking the time to stop by with such a kind and encouraging word to me today! You are applying this post by communicating a message of blessing to me 🙂

    And I’m so glad you found Bible Hub! I often embed it as a Scripture link in blog posts and I use it pretty much daily. It’s a great resource!

    So glad to know that someone looks forward to the blog daily . . . sometimes I wonder . . . “Is anyone reading?” It’s good to know you are reading and blessed!

    Good to hear from you!