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Enslaved by Anger

I remember the first time I ever lost my cool with my husband. We weren’t even married yet, only dating. I had a “new” car (actually a “used” car, but new to me) and we’d stopped at Taco Bell to grab lunch on the run. He was getting into the vehicle with what looked like a bucket full of Mountain Dew—a “monster gulp!” As he reached to hand me the “bucket” the hand-off didn’t go too well and the entire monster-sized drink completely drenched the front seat of my Chevy Malibu.

I kind of lost it. I was so ashamed after my verbal explosion and sincerely apologized.

But you know what?

The next time I was tempted to unload my anger on him, it was easier to deliver. 

I found that “venting my anger” felt good. I could let him have it and somehow my frustration was pleasantly released by slamming him.

That began a destructive cycle in our marriage that was extremely hard to break. Because sin has this funny property: the more you commit it, the easier it is to become addicted. Whether you’re driven by ingratitude, pride, fear, lust, or the desire to control, sin’s power grows the more you give into it and the more you feed it.

This is how Romans 6 describes it:

[box]Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.

Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness? (Romans 6:12–13, 16)[/box]

Whether you’re a young mom who keeps yelling at her kids, or you’re the single woman who is addicted to porn and self-gratification, sin is a powerful master. The more you serve it, the more powerful your sin becomes.

The more you feed it, the more hungry your sin grows.

And never forget, Sin grows best in the dark. 

Tomorrow, we’ll see how to break out of the slavery cycle.

Is there a hidden sin that you are struggling with?

Are you willing to ask God today to open your eyes to sinful addictions in your heart that you’re not even be aware of?

How can I pray for you?

5 Comments

  • Victoria Creager

    That was great! My biggest struggle is worry and I would be very thankful if you would keep me in your prayers. Worrying is part of my personality, I guess, because I remember even when I was 5 or 6 I was worried about something and praying to God to help me. Thanks.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Victoria ~

    Worry is a common struggle for all of us, I think in particular for women. I encourage you to think of worry this way: focusing on a negative outcome or event that may or may not happen. Scripture tells us to focus on what is truth:

    “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” (Phil. 4:8)

    When our mind is filled with worry, we are being controlled by fear of the unknown rather than dwelling on the truth. I hope to do a blog post on this soon, so I hope you stay connected here.

    I’m pausing to pray for you now, friend. May your trust in the faithfulness of God grow and may He keep your mind in perfect peace as you set your heart on Him (Isa, 26:3)

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Nicole

    Hi Kimberly,

    Could you pray for me to be able to break out of a destructive cycle of verbal explosion. I want to be free from this sin!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Nicole ~

    No matter how much venting your anger has become a pattern in your life, victory is possible. I can relate to your struggle, it is a very real battle. I don’t know if you read the post following this one, but I provide some points on breaking free that I hope you’ll find helpful:

    http://www.kimberlywagner.org/?p=3716

    Pausing to pray for you now ~