Are you “Sitting and Soaking?”

I was in an awkward stage of young motherhood because I was the “pastor’s wife.” I was in a position of spiritual leadership, but many of the women I was teaching were old enough to be my grandmother with life-experiences exceeding mine by a few decades. (That’s not exactly the Titus 2 model!)

During that season, one moment in particular stands out in my mind.

I’d observed a white-haired dear saint in our church for a few years. She was quiet, faithful, a caring mother and grandmother. As a widow she’d entered a season filled with new possibilities and more time on her hands than ever before. After some prayer and discussion with my husband, I approached her about the possibility of leading an evening small group to disciple some of the younger women in our body.

Her response floored me.

I fully expected her to respond with a willingness to pray about the opportunity. I thought she might even join me in being excited about the possibility of being used in this type of ministry, especially since she wasn’t serving in any capacity in the church. I was wrong. She looked at me in wide-eyed shock and curtly (and a tad fiercely) said, “Oh, no. I could never do that!”

I was stunned.

Now, I understand some people are shy. Some are new believers and in need of training and growth. Others are fearful of public speaking. But, this woman was willing to share in class (while I was teaching), wasn’t a new believer at all (she’d been a Christian longer than I’d been alive!), and seemed confident enough to carry on conversations in our large group Bible study.

She wasn’t willing to discuss it with me, and was adamant in her refusal, so I didn’t probe, but I’ve often wondered why she made that choice. I’ve wondered what all she missed by making the choice of “sitting and soaking” rather than “kneeling and serving.”

We’re all called to minister, to share the gospel and disciple others. We’re all placed within the body to serve. If you aren’t serving, the body is missing out.

YOU are missing out! 

[box]For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of his faith; if service, in his serving; or he who teaches, in his teaching; or he who exhorts, in his exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness. (Romans 12:4–8)[/box]

Not everyone is called to teach, or to lead in worship, to be the church hostess, or to organize the mission trip, but all are called to serve in some way. And according to Titus 2, the older are to be training the “younger” in life skills, parenting, developing self-control, and lots of other “good stuff.”

If you are “sitting and soaking” in your congregation and are withholding your spiritual gifts in serving the body of Christ, I hope you’ll pause right now and talk to God about this. Ask Him how and where He wants to use you. Offer yourself as a “living sacrifice” ready to be used by Him for His purposes.

Don’t miss out or cause your church body to miss out by sitting on the sidelines of ministry! 

Are you sitting and soaking or kneeling and serving?


  • Vivian Etherington

    I have a question for you, my Titus 2 woman: What would you say to a woman who feels overwhelmed already by her responsibilities as a wife/mom because of the added responsibilities of homeschooling 4 teenagers and caring for a baby four days a week. I am praying about the fall…..if I should take on anything that doesn’t involve my children. I love teaching in women’s Bible study, but in just 6 short yrs all of my children will be out of the home.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hey Friend ~

    You know the answer 🙂 SEASONS . . .

    You are being the Titus 2 woman right now in this season of your life, first to your children, and you are also impacting other women without holding the time-consuming position of “teacher.” Evaluate whether you might fill a one or two week teaching slot, but if the study and preparation are detrimental to the spiritual health of your home (including your marriage) right now, graciously decline. You will soon be in another season which will allow you to have a broader aspect of ministry within your church body. Get some counsel from your husband and children (yes, your children) ask them if they think you will be stretched too thin to add this into the family’s schedule during the school year. Talk about what the school year will look like, what activities all of you are involved in, what is priority for the family, etc. then invite the family to take this up as a matter of prayer.

    Go to the Word, ask the Father to give you clear confirmation in Scripture. Pray and seek Him, He delights in answering prayer that is lifted for the purpose of His glory.

    Let me know how He answers! 🙂

    Blessings, friend ~