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Please take a moment to help me out here! I hope you won’t just read today’s post, but I need you to provide me with some helpful information. I’m asking for “readership participation” today! I’ll get to that at the end of the post.

Are you involved with a community of women?

In Sarah’s day (about 2100 years or so B.C.), it was happening around the local well. In my great grandmother’s day it was happening most often in the kitchen, for my mom and her friends it would happen on the telephone. Today it’s happening here. Women are exchanging ideas and experiences. They’re learning from one another as they share their hearts and thoughts—being encouraged and challenged—online!

Through Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, your favorite blog or website, you can load up on tons of good resources, learn how to live on a budget, hear a great message, or chat with a friend across the globe. There are definitely limitations on how deeply you can go in a “cyber community” and admittedly there are dangers, but there are also plenty of good opportunities for growth.

One of my favorite things about being in community with women online is I can catch quick glimpses of what God is doing in their lives—even though I may never have the opportunity to meet them here on earth. I may not be able to travel to Poughkeepsie, but I can read an online word from a woman there who is sharing how God is at work in her life and I’m encouraged.

It excites me to see God raising up a host of women who are fierce in their love for Him all across the globe! I love discovering websites that are not only solid doctrinally but also inspire me with a passion to live a more gospel-centered life.

If this website has been an encouragement to you, I hope you’ll leave a comment below and let me know how God is using it in your life. 

“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (1 Thess. 5:11)

This is where your participation is needed! If there are particular topics that you’d like for me to address, please leave a comment and let me know your thoughts. It will help me to hear from you.

26 Comments

  • Kathy

    Hi Kim,
    I read your blog just about everyday. Your story seems a lot like mine and I have been convicted, encouraged, and strengthened by your blog. It has been little nuggets that I can hold onto through out the day and meditate upon. As far as topics: I would love some on being a Pastor’s wife and what that looks like in your life. What specific things you do to support your husband as well as other ladies in your Church. Another topic that is close to my heart right now is adult children living in the home–where is my influence, where do I draw the line in keeping and setting rules, and what to do when they begin to show worldly tendencies and begin to miss church etc. (a prodigal son in the ministry–in general). Those are just a few I can think of at the top of my head. I appreciate so much your ministry and how you take the time everyday to share with us from the heart. Thank you!!!!

  • Kim J.

    Kim,
    Like so many I too was a “Fierce Woman”. Your book and blog are big sources of encouragement for me. I don’t have any suggestions for new topics as you seem to always get around to addressing the issues closest to my heart. Thanks for what you do!!

  • Leslie

    I really appreciate Kathy’s suggestions. I, too, would like to hear about adult children living in the home and knowing how much to influence/say and where to draw the line with rules etc. In my case, it is a 21 year old son living at home and trying to start his own business. I have noticed that my frustrations with our son can sometimes “spread and magnify” over to my view of my husband.

    And Kim? Thank you for being authentic in your walk with Christ…..sharing the victories and the struggles.

  • Sheila

    Hi Kim. You, dear sister, are singing my song. I’m frustrated that so many seem oblivious of the spiritual battle that rages around us. I wish more saw that if we want to call ourselves Christians, it means that we are enlisted soldiers and need to be trained and ready at all times to be engaged warriors. That brings me to my delight in your message in Fierce Women, that “women are created to be a compelling force.” Like the wall in Nehemiah’s time, our world is broken. We need men and women to be at their “post” on the wall, knowing what God has called them uniquely to do, to both protect and build. I pray that the Lord will protect and bless you, your marriage and family, and your ministry to women.

  • Jennifer

    I love your blog, you always seem to know just what I’m going through or how to encourage me! I think you are doing a wonderful job, keep up the great ministry!

  • Laurel

    I’m radically different than I was a little over a year ago and before reading Fierce Women. Have you any experience with women who have discontinued their negatively fierce habits and thrown their marriages into a completely out if control tailspin? My husband responded to my changed behavior by getting pickier and pickier about every aspect of my life and behavior. He is now in a constant state of frustration and quiet rage. Is this just a phase? I have never been so fearful of the future and we are even living separately in our home (not my choice). We were married more than 24 years ago.

  • Lori

    Yes, Kim, I, too, love your blog! I found it about a year ago after hearing you on the radio. It helped me tremendously with my attitude and feelings toward my husband. It was wonderful to read your husband’s point of view as well!! Little did i know that I had been squelching my husband’s hopes and dreams so much! My husband is a terrific man and would do anything for me, I just have to remember that he needs strokes, too! We encounter so many things right now at the season of life we are in, and I try not to add any more negative to it!! “Fierce” woman that I am continues to struggle and lean on God to help me each and every day. Keep up the good work listening and responding to how the Lord leads you to minister to all of us. Thank you!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Kathy ~

    Wow, your comment was so encouraging! I’m thankful that you are a regular reader and that God uses the posts in your life. He is faithful. Thank you for giving me some good topics to consider.

    Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment that has my writing wheels turning!! 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you, Jennifer! I’m so glad that God uses the posts in your life (He really does know what you’re going through and how to encourage you)!

    When you think about it, will you pray for me?

    I’m in a hectic season right now and I’m asking God to supply the time needed to write. I love writing, and I hope the blogs are ministering to women, but I definitely have to continually depend on His grace for every aspect of this!

  • Rebecca Einwechter

    Thanks Kim for your constant good meditations. Some of the things I appreciate the most: you are painfully honest, and also that you don’t let readers off the hook with excuses for us to not obey God’s Word. I desperately need that kind of counsel. I really like topics of prayer, especially when it appears God is not answering. Also, how to live with grown children being far away from you. May God give you all the time you need to do what He call you to. Praying for you all there!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Laurel,

    I am so sorry, precious sister. I’m thankful that you’ve made personal changes, but I am so sorry for the tailspin and discord you are now experiencing. Do you and your husband have a spiritually mature couple you can seek out for counseling? I know the challenges (and humbling aspect) of seeking help while in ministry, but we all need others in our lives who can come alongside us when we reach crisis points like what you are describing.

    If your husband is unwilling to reach out for help, consider having a “salty grace talk” (maybe pull out “Fierce Women” and read chapter 10 again before you have that conversation). Let him know your desire to work on your marriage and ask him what his reasons for living separately are. Don’t hold the conversation in a confrontational manner, but in a gentle way appeal to him.

    If he’s not heard my husband talking about our story on the Revive Our Hearts program, you might consider pulling that up for him to hear and perhaps it would initiate some honest and helpful discussion.

    You can find that program at https://www.reviveourhearts.com/ by typing in this series name: A Hurting Couple Finds True Hope, with LeRoy & Kimberly Wagner.

    Laurel, I hope you have friends in your area who will come alongside you in a mentoring role. My heart breaks for you both. May God bring to light what your husband’s needs are right now, where he is spiritually, and what steps are needed for God’s redemptive work to begin.

    “Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Romans 15:5–6)

    Pausing to pray for you now, please stay in touch ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Lori ~

    Thank you so much for sharing how God has been at work! I am so glad to hear that God has used our story in your marriage. He is faithful to supply what we need in order for us to glorify Him with our lives.

    From one “fierce woman” to another–thanks for the encouragement to keep pressing on!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Becky ~

    Thank you so much for your kind words. You are a precious encouragement! I like the topics you’ve suggested . . . all good and needed stuff! Thank you so much for your prayers–that means so much! Ask the Lord to continue to pour His truth into my heart and mind and formulate the content He knows we need.

    Blessings, dear friend ~

  • Katie

    Kim,

    I do feel like i’m apart of a community when reading and participating in your blog. I visit it several times a week and am encouraged every time. Not only by your words and knowledge, but also by knowing im not alone in the things I go through. I truly believe your blog is a big tool and part of my journey in becoming the Fierce woman and soft warrior. This not only whom I want to become, but ultimately a Proberbs 31 woman. (A woman after God’s own heart). Thank you Kim. You bless my life more than you know.

    ~Love in Christ dear sister

  • Pauline

    Dear Kim,

    I appreciate your ministry so much. More often than not, a message you share directly relates to something that is going on in my life or in the life of someone I know. Or it is expressing a truth that God has been laying on my heart, giving me the assurance that I’m on the right track. God never ceases to amaze me! It is wonderful how He knows the words we need to hear and how He speaks them through you. He is working through you each time you write, by coming alongside women who need an encouraging word or some wise counsel. Thank you for speaking God’s truth in love and for having a heart to minister to women. You are an encouragement to me as God continues to burden my heart for the women in my life and those whom I have yet to meet.

  • Clinging to Hope

    How do you nurture love into a relationship that has been based on sex, not love. We never fell in love emotionally. How do we do that 30 years later?

    Thank you for your life laid down for Jesus. He speaks the Truth through you.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Kim ~

    Thank you so much for your precious word of encouragement! I am so grateful for your comment and thankful that the Father is using the posts (and the book) in your life.

    I love knowing there are beautifully fierce sisters out there reading 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Leslie ~

    Thank you for taking the time to leave an encouraging comment. I really appreciate it!

    I’m mulling over and praying about the blog post concerning adult children living at home, not sure when that one will be ready, so in the meantime, you might find this post helpful:

    http://www.biblicalparenting.org/pr-adultchildren.asp

    It sounds as though you are recognizing some of the areas you are struggling with, and that’s always a good place to start.

    Pausing to pray for you and your family now, I know this is a challenging season ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Sheila ~

    Wow, what a blessing to know you are praying for me, you sound like a kindred-hearted sister! Thankful to know you are at your post on the wall, and joining me in praying for God to equip and engage warriors in the battle! Your comment was very encouraging.

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Katie ~

    Oh, what a precious, precious word! Thank you for your encouraging comment. I’m so thankful to know how God is working in your life! Praising the Lord with you for His faithfulness, dear friend.

    Much love to you ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Pauline ~

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write such an encouraging note. You blessed me! I’m sure God is using you in the lives of women in your sphere of influence. I’m thankful to hear that He is using the blog to confirm and speak to your heart. Yes, He is so amazing!!

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Dear Clinging to Hope,

    I am so very sorry. It may seem impossible, but there is never a situation beyond God’s grace and ability to transform. I encourage you to check out the 30-Day Husband encouragement Challenge from Revive Our Hearts Ministries (I’ll paste the link below). Many women have shared how God has used this powerful resource to affect their marriages in amazing ways.

    Also, if you haven’t read “Fierce Women” you may find some of the practical suggestions there helpful.

    Pausing to pray for you now, dear friend, may you experience an Eph. 3:20 work in your marriage!

    This is the link to the ROH resource:

    https://www.reviveourhearts.com/resource-library/30-day-challenges/30-day-husband/

  • Donna

    Kim, what an encouragement your website is to me. I subscribed when I first heard your marriage story on Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ radio program. I echo the comments of the other ladies on how helpful your topics are and your transparency.

    While I read all of your postings, God used one in particular to speak to my heart and confirm my decision to answer His call to get out of my comfort zone and trust Him thereby increasing my faith. I was very comfortable in my controlled, routine lifestyle. In God’s economy, there is nothing controlled or routine. How would we step out and grow in faith. We dont. We listen, take in, but without application and obedience, we aren’t effective for His kingdom. I was asked to lead a group of women in bible study. I am a behind the scenes kind of person, not a leader. Totally out of my comfort zone. After a few days of prayer, and God dropping so many devos into my email box on serving, getting out of our comfort zone, one even on Moses who we will be studying (God has a sense of humor when He wants to get our attention.), and your timely post dated July 15 entitled, “Are you sitting and soaking or kneeling and serving,” I made the decision to step out in faith, the uncertain, and lead these 16 ladies. After lining up all of my worries and what ifs with scripture and taking my thoughts captive from the enemy’s lies, I came to realize, it is ALL about God, not me, my discomfort, fears, worries of what others may think. It is truly for my growth in faith and furthering His kingdom and glorifying Him. That is my focus.

    Thank you for your faithfulness in writing what God places on your heart. It definitely impacts many. I know it has me.

    Abundant Blessings to you and your ministry.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello Donna ~

    Wow, what an encouragement . . . thank you so much for sharing specifically how God is at work in your life, and how He’s used the blog to bring confirmation. Nothing blesses me more than knowing He is using my feeble scribbles (and at times very random thoughts), to cultivate the desire in women to press in further to all He has for them! That is why I write–to glorify Him.

    I am so glad you won’t be “sitting and soaking” but you will be stepping outside of your comfort zone, to kneel in surrender to the Father’s assignment and serve. I’m pausing now to pray that He will clearly lead you, encourage you, strengthen you, and provide joy as you walk in obedience to Him!

    God always provides grace for the assignment. I don’t know how long you’ve been reading the blog, but if you haven’t read this post, it might encourage you as you step into the “gap” for this assignment:

    http://www.kimberlywagner.org/?p=2877

    I will be studying Moses as well this fall, I hope you stay connected and let me know how your study is going and specifically how I can pray for you in that.

    “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Donna

    Dear Kim,

    Thank you so much for your encouraging words, your prayer, and the awesome post you referenced. I will make a copy to keep in my Bible of your sweet, uplifting words to me and the article as it spoke perfectly to my heart. I know I will be stretched and will fight many inner battles as you mention. But, I am so ready to be closer to God and surrender all to Him than continue living a “life of lack” due to my pride and self-centeredness. I know it will be uncomfortable on so many levels, but, I know in Christ, trusting Him will change me and I will see more of Him, understand Him and His ways by seeking Him on an even deeper level, and kneeling and serving as opposed to sitting, soaking, and just taking. And Ephesians 2:10 is so fitting for me.

    I will definitely keep in touch. Thank you again for your heartfelt words as they truly ministered to my heart.

    God Bless.