Meet the Family of God

This week I’ve invited Trillia Newbell to share her heart with us here on the blog. We’re giving away gift copies of her book, United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity, (more below on winning a copy). Trillia serves as the consultant on Women’s Initiatives for the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission for the SBC. Trillia is married to her best friend, Thern, and they live with their two children near Nashville.

If you missed my review of her book, click here. If you’d like to read more from Trillia, click here to check out her website.

I love her heart and I think you will, too. Here’s Trillia ~ 


There is no denying the importance of family. My husband and children are my first priority and God’s gift to me. When my husband is discouraged, it’s a privilege to come alongside him and encourage him. When my kids are sick, my husband and I are there to nurse them back to health. Our relationships go much further than caring for one another, of course, but often these tangible expressions are the means of expressing our importance to one another. My husband and I are united through the covenant of marriage and have the great responsibility from God of shepherding our children.

I imagine you would agree that family is important. There’s another family that is of great value to the Lord and that is the family of God.

Our Adoption

As Christians we are adopted children of God. Paul tells us of our new bloodline when he writes: “The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs — heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him” (Romans 8:16–17). We are children of God and a fellow heir with Christ. Before the foundation of the world God had us in mind. He created us and then he adopted us as his very own children.

But it came at a price.

In order for us to be brought into God’s family, his Son had to die. God gave his Son for us to be called sons. We know that Jesus’s death wasn’t short and quick. It was long and agonizing — and it was for us.

Even before his death Jesus affirmed the importance of being a part of the family of God. Addressing the people while his mother and brothers stood outside, Jesus said, “‘Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?’ And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, ‘Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother’” (Matthew 12:48–50).

Jesus isn’t making a statement that our biological families are no longer important (see Matthew 15:3). Rather, he is stating that following him is far greater. He takes priority, and so does his kingdom — so much so that those who follow him are counted as his brother and sister and mother — his family.

A Colorful Family

Maybe the best news about our adoption into God’s family is that it is not dependent on us. He doesn’t call the righteous, he redeems sinners. God also doesn’t look at our outward appearance to determine whether he will adopt us. He doesn’t discriminate based on ethnicity. His concern is the heart. We know that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). We are saved by faith alone through grace alone — all our boasting is in Christ alone (Ephesians 2:8–9). The gospel is for all nations.

We know this is true, and yet so often we allow the differences in the color of our skin to dictate whether or not we accept people. God doesn’t discriminate in his family. Racial reconciliation has been accomplished in Christ. There is no distinction. Those who trust in Christ for their salvation are adopted, and therefore we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. As a result, we should be united in Christ. He’s got a colorful family, and therefore so do we. Russell Moore puts it like this in Adopted for Life:

Our adoption means . . . that we find a different kind of unity. In Christ, we find Christ. We don’t have our old identities based on race or class or life situation. The Spirit drives us from Babel to Pentecost, which is why “the works of the flesh” Paul warns about include “enmity, strife, jealousy. . . .” When we find our identity anywhere other than Christ, our churches will be made up of warring partisans rather than loving siblings.

What would it mean, though, if we took the radical notion of being brothers and sisters seriously?

What would happen if your church saw an elderly woman no one would ever confuse with “cool” on her knees at the front of the church praying with a body-pierced fifteen-year-old anorexic girl?

What would happen if your church saw a white millionaire corporate vice president being mentored by a Latino minimum wage-earning janitor because both know the janitor is more mature in the things of Christ? (paragraphing added)

Different and the Same

As we begin to view members of our churches as members of God’s family and thus as members of our family, our prejudices begin to crumble. Racial reconciliation is not only possible; it’s a must because we are the very family of God.

One way for us to truly love and care for the Church is for us to get a big God view of the family of God. Understanding the family of God is yet another weapon against racial intolerance in the church and beyond.

As we recognize, accept, and embrace our new family, we experience the walls of hostility abolished, torn down, no more. Only in the family of God can people so distinctly different be the same (equal in creation and redemption) and counted as sisters and brothers in a new family.


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Originally posted 2.27.14 on the Desiring God blog.


  • Marcia

    I shared about her book on my facebook page. I enjoyed her at the True Woman conference last year.

  • Leonor

    I shared in Facebook! Have a blessed day!!
    I so so grateful and encouraged reading about
    Trilia and God’s love for all people! Since we moved to Texas
    From Cali, we have experienced similar things.
    But thanks be to God tha in Christ, we Are loved and we can love too!

  • Amber

    Sharing on facebook 🙂 I love trilia and her contagious joy. I’m very excited to read and apply this message!

  • Sharon West

    Sometimes we find it easier to embrace speaking all things in “truth and love” to the lost than to practice it within our church family. Along with the unfathomable privilege of being co-heirs with Christ, through His redemptive grace, comes also responsibility to love one another in the body of Christ.

    “But speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.” Ephesians 4:15-16

    The book summary seems to spell out, in very practical language, a message that’s critically important for today’s church – as we urgently reach out to share Jesus, and with our example of unity, within point them to newness of life. I’ll be excited to read this book! Shared this post to my FB wall, 3/5/15.

  • admin

    Congratulations, Leonor! You have been chosen as today’s giveaway winner. You have been sent an e-mail requesting your mailing address so that a copy of “United” can be sent your way.

    For those of you who have not won today, be sure to check back tomorrow for another chance to win a giveaway copy of Trillia Newbell’s book!

    Molly Sipling
    Website Administrator