What God Wants to do with Your Pain

I thought I was dying. I’d lost hope, and saw only the dark shroud of my pain. I knew God was there, but I couldn’t see Him at work.

Some of you may have heard our story when it aired on Focus on the Family, or watched the video where we share how God worked in our marriage. When we were walking through that dark season, I couldn’t see anything God was doing and would never have imagined how He would use that season of pain. But He has.

While in the pain God taught me:

  • To trust His faithfulness—especially when I couldn’t see Him working
  • To remain and not run—escaping the pain was not the answer
  • Disobedience brings painful consequences—realizing that brings a healthy fear of God and hatred for sin
  • To never assume I’m right—He wants to use this place to reveal blind spots I’m unaware of
  • To keep pressing into Him to see what I’m missing in the big picture
  • The best is yet to come—always!
  • “We’ve not yet seen the rest of the story” (my theme song while experiencing sorrow)

He’s not wasted my pain:

  • From the brokenness, He’s brought healing and fruit.
  • My husband and I guard our marriage relationship and treasure each moment—knowing we wasted so many years.
  • Lessons learned from that season are a source of hope and counsel for numerous couples.
  • The story of His power to redeem is recorded in Fierce Women so that other couples can benefit from the lessons in the pain.

Here’s what He can do with your pain:

  • Show you more of Himself than you’ve yet seen
  • Train you in righteousness
  • Increase your faith and dependence on Him
  • Allow others to see His sustaining grace as you trust and obey
  • Conform you to Christ’s image
  • Use you to bring comfort and inspiration to  others.

[box]For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison (2 Cor. 4:17)[/box]

[box]Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. (2 Cor. 1:3–4)[/box]

I’d love to hear your story. How has a season of pain produced fruit in your life or others?

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  • suzanne rapacki

    i heard bits and pieces of the program on F.on TF. 2 evenings…i know now God orchestrated that.because you see, i’ve been doing exactly what u said u had done. emasculating my husband… for past 1 1/2 years..i lived in a home where my mother did that to my father all our lives… we heard concern is.. my husband is not a believer.. he can recite why CHRIST died. and rose again.. but is not a believer.. no fruit.. so how do i handle this with a nonsaved husband??? sensitive to times when i open my mouth to say something not godly.. i was in satan’s grip! pray for me.. my husband did exactly what u had said.turned inward..i kept wondering what had happened to him.. and telling others he had changed.. well.. no testimony has been shameful.. i’m leaning on God.. and i have ordered your book. God bless.i thot at times i was going nuts.. didnt realize exactly what was going on.. my mouth seemed to work on its own.. but oh no.. well.. again thank you and please… pray for me and my husband… older.. 50’s husband is 60’s.. heath issues with him.. but still a very proud, but now put down man.. suzanne

  • suzanne rapacki

    i have been doing the same thing for past 1 1/2 yrs to my unsaved husband!! thank God i heard at least bits of your program… it opened my eyes.. pray for me .. and him.. how do i handle this with an unsaved spouse.???