This comment was posted recently on one of my blogs:

“I know God tells us to be of good cheer, but why is it a constant struggle for me? I feel like I’m drowning in depression from the corrupt world around me, constantly praying for my unsaved husband, finances and my failing job. I need extra prayer.”

Friend, if you are overwhelmed with the darkness right now, I totally understand your struggle. I think it is a common tactic of the enemy to capture our attention with the corruption that surrounds us and leave us with the impression that he’s winning.

Sometimes just a trip to the mall is enough to send me into shock.

Several years ago I was shopping for shoes with my son when the large screen monitor caught my attention. A music video was playing and as I looked up to watch the young woman who was singing, I started weeping. Yep, right there in the shoe store with my teenage son!

As I watched what our youth are emulating and celebrating, my heart broke.

I was weeping for the girl on screen and the worldview she was promoting. I was weeping for a generation who will celebrate and embrace the enemy’s lies. My son came over and put his arm around me and said, “Um, Mom, we can shop somewhere else.” (That was a few years ago, but he still teases me occasionally about my “MTV breakdown” in a shoe store.)

I think it is right to weep. 

Check this out: 

[box]My eyes pour out streams of tears because people do not follow Your (God’s) instruction. (Ps. 119:136)[/box] 

We should be grieved over sin and corruption. Romans 8:22 describes all of creation as “groaning” under the world’s fallen condition. But we need to be careful to balance our grieving with a robust faith in Jesus’ power to overcome.

Jesus wins.

Never forget that.

He is the Victor!

And I think the key to not caving to depression, no matter what the source is, whether it is marital, health, finances, or parenting problems, is maintaining the right perspective. Let the light of His powerful victory stream in when you’re overwhelmed by the darkness.

The key to robust faith and not losing heart is the perspective that Hebrews 12:1–4 describes:

[box]Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

You have not yet resisted to the point of shedding blood in your striving against sin . . .[/box]

When I focus more on the darkness than on Jesus’ victory, I will spiral into a pit of depression. I must never forget that He has overcome and He has called us (and empowered us) to live as overcomers as well.

[box]“You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.” (1 John 4:4)[/box]

Friends, let’s keep pressing into Jesus and watch for the tangible evidences of His power and might!

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  • Julie Musil

    Kimberly, I can relate to the person who left that comment on your blog. Sometimes it does seem overwhelming.

    I have three teen sons, and when I chaperone events or visit the high school campus, I’m sometimes caught off guard–in a negative way–by what I see. But then again, sometimes I’m encouraged by what I see. Sometimes the kids will be helping a special needs boy. Or sometimes they’re doing a blood drive. Or sometimes there’s a “Twitter hug” for someone who’s going through a difficult time. Yes, there is plenty of darkness out there, especially for our kids, but there’s also a lot of light. I choose to focus on the light.

    One thing I’m learning in my new walk with God: when I’m feeling low, I need to jump into his Word. I’d never done that before. I used to just wallow for a while, and then hear the Word when I went to church. Not anymore. I’m learning to enjoy life despite the struggles–there’s joy even in the valleys.

    I’ll say a prayer for the other commenter. Thanks so much, Kimberly.

  • Pauline Butler

    Kim, once again, “Thank You!” Your messages are always so timely and encouraging and very much appreciated. Blessings~~Pauline

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Yes, Julie, there is “joy in the valleys” and there is also a sovereign purpose in the valleys. God desires for us to grow more Christ-like as we depend on Him and obey Him through the difficult valley experience. And all of it is in order to glorify Him!

    I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to know that you are now “jumping into the Word” on a regular basis rather than just waiting to hear it taught on Sundays. That is where real growth occurs–daily soaking in the truth of God’s Word, then applying the truths to our lives!

    I’m wondering . . . How did you find the blog? So glad that God led you hear 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    You are welcome, Pauline! Good to hear from you. I hope all is going well in the great North East! Thank you for leaving a gracious and encouraging comment 🙂

  • Julie Musil

    Kimberly, I just noticed this reply!

    I listened to the interview with you and your husband on Focus on the Family. I downloaded Fierce Women and read it on my Kindle, highlighting like a madwoman as I went through it. That’s how I heard of you! Now I follow your blog–thank goodness 🙂

  • Pauline Butler

    Life has been quite busy here in the great Northeast, but I am so thankful for the opportunities God has given me to be His hands, feet and voice. Also, my daughter is due to have her baby any day and we are eagerly awaiting his arrival.:) Have you started writing your new book?