The Church Has Lost Her Credibility

Sadly, the Church is not standing in a strong position to speak on the same-sex marriage issue because we have failed to establish marriages that display the picture God intended. It is hypocritical of us to decry the moral failure in America without calling the Church to repentance because of the condition of our marriages. The Church’s divorce rate does not bring God glory, and in fact, the condition of a high percentage of the Church’s marriages brings blasphemy to God’s Word.

The Church has lost its voice to speak credibly on this issue because the majority of the Church’s heterosexual marriages are not reflecting the power of the gospel.

I was guilty of this in my own marriage.

I was “reviling” the Word of God by claiming to be a follower of Jesus Christ, while resenting my husband. I claimed to love God but I was a shrew to live with. Our marriage did not display the love relationship that God intended for married couples to experience.

The beautiful description of marriage that Ephesians 5 gives is what God desires in the Church. The model of the husband (representative of Christ) and the wife (representative of the Church) is a picture of the love relationship that we are to display to others in our marriages. That kind of marriage is only possible through the transformation provided by Christ’s atoning work on the cross. It is only possible when two sinful mates apply the truth of God’s Word through the empowering grace of the Holy Spirit.

I am so ashamed that for many years our marriage did not reflect the picture of the gospel, did not glorify God, or give credence to the power of His Word.

Once God opened my eyes to what I was doing, it brought me to my knees, to lasting repentance, to a point of asking my husband’s forgiveness and committing to surrender my will to God’s Word.

Writing Fierce Women is the fruit of God’s amazing work in our marriage. My husband and I share a deep and growing burden for the marriages that are broken and hurting. If you’re struggling in your marital relationship, I encourage you to check out posts from the archives that are tagged: “Marriage.” If you’ve not watched our marriage video with your husband, I encourage you to do that. If you’ve not confessed to him ways that you recognize you’ve been wrong in the marriage, I encourage you to seek your husband’s forgiveness.

I’m praying that God will be glorified through marriages where husbands and wives live with one another in humility, demonstrating the love of Christ, submitting to the authority of His Word, and walking in the fruit of the Spirit.

I’m asking God to bring revival to the Church and return her voice so that the Church can credibly speak to the culture.

Will you join me?

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One Comment

  • dori baxter

    Kim, I wonder if it even goes deeper. As women we are told to be submissive to our own husbands and to be busy in the home so not to blasphemy the word of God (2 different verses). Have we rebelled against those desires God has for us and contributed to a discontent spirit in the home leading to the demise of Christian marriages? Just a thought that has been laying heavy on my heart.