A New Perspective on Home Life

Do you like learning new words? Let me throw one out you may not hear too often—Domesticity. A general definition of domesticity is “a devotion to home life.” Perhaps “domesticity” sounds to you like a dreary home economics term from the ‘50s. Sorry, that perspective is entirely too narrow.
Domesticity includes activities like:

  • Midday picnics on the back lawn with your toddlers
  • Hosting a neighborhood Bible study
  • Spontaneous midnight excursions to Waffle House with your teenagers
  • Leaving surprise love notes in the car seat or in lunch boxes
  • Family game nights
  • Planting a vegetable garden as a family project
  • Pillow fights!
  • Nightly readings of The Chronicles of Narnia with your kids
  • Family reenactments of favorite plays, movies, or Bible stories
  • Camping out in the living room in tents!

True domesticity might mean putting off vacuuming in order to spend a “girls’ day out” with a teenage daughter who’s beginning to retreat into her own world. It can mean stopping in the middle of laundry to help your third-grader memorize multiplication tables. In our fast-paced, overly scheduled, stress-filled world, families are in desperate need of true women embracing the virtue of domesticity—being truly devoted to their homes.

Domesticity isn’t limited to the married, or to moms, but is a virtue for all women. Domesticity needs to be cultivated and routinely practiced by widows, singles, empty-nesters, and self-proclaimed “messies.”

Home is more than the four walls that encompass your living space. As you practice domesticity, the home can be your primary vehicle for displaying God’s presence and His glory. It can be a central location for ministry to occur through hospitality, in providing a safe and welcoming environment for loved ones and visitors to retreat in times of need.

Home: The place where those who cross its threshold experience the presence and ministry of Christ as though He were greeting them with a loving embrace and bending to wash their feet.

[box]”She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness” (Prov. 31:27).[/box]

I’d love hear from you! If you have positive memories of home life, please share things that were meaningful.

Adapted from my True Woman blog post: 07.06.09

Image courtesy of radnatt/


  • Julie Musil

    This post brings a smile to my face. Before we had kids, my husband and I agreed that I’d stay home with them. And what a joy it’s been. As my oldest prepares to leave for college, that’s an area where I have no regrets. I’ve spent so much time with my boys–here in the home, or on our own field trips to museums, or the beach. We’ve laid on the driveway late at night and watched the space shuttle arc across the sky. I absolutely embrace domesticity. It’s been such a joy.

  • Michele Morin

    I love your point that domesticity is not just for the married. Our family has been blessed abundantly by the hospitality of our single friends who have embraced their calling to be single and made a home where God is exalted.
    Thank you for your positive perspective on the home and homeMAKERS. It has been my special privilege to be at home with and for my family for 21 years and counting. I have been changed by it — and challenged by it, and continue to be.