Will You Take the Challenge?

What are you?!”

I looked a bit confused by the cashier’s question.

She pointed to the group of about 20 women making their way back to our “vehicle convoy” on the parking lot of the small convenience store. “Oh,” I smiled, “we’re traveling to Denton to attend a women’s conference together. This is some of our church family!”

As she checked out my items, the woman (probably in her late 60s), continued: “I’ve never seen anything like it. Teenagers and senior citizens laughing and talking together . . . You all seem to enjoy being together . . .” Shaking her head, she repeated, “Never seen anything like it.”

That was a good reminder to me to appreciate what has developed within our church body.

Although our nation has experienced a growing social disconnect between the generations over the last several decades, the Titus 2 model breaks down those barriers.

With more than three decades experience as a pastor’s wife, I’m convinced that women are in desperate need of discipleship. Many of the young women I meet with have no godly role models in their lives; several were raised in a single-parent home, some without a mother in the picture at all.

I want to issue a challenge to you today. This challenge is not for perfect women and it does not require that you be a theological scholar. It will require diligence, time, consistency, compassion, confidentiality, humility, vulnerability, transparency and a strong dependence on God’s grace.

The Challenge
Pray and ask God to lead you to a young woman in need of discipleship. Be willing to make a short-term time commitment (three to six months). Provide the space in your life to meet with her on a regular basis, preferably weekly, for one to two hours.

You don’t have to do a Bible study together or develop lesson plans for discipleship—there are many ways to pour truth into a young woman’s heart while at the same time sharing practical life skills.

I once invited a single, 24-year-old young woman (who was raised by her single father) to help me prepare Thanksgiving dinner. She wanted to learn things in the kitchen she’d never had the opportunity to watch before. We had a blast and she learned a few things as well.

Be creative. Come up with a plan that will work for you and benefit the young woman. Here are a few ideas to consider:

  • Print off good blog articles to discuss over coffee.
  • Offer to show her what you’ve learned about meal planning, grocery shopping, cleaning, time management, etc.
  • Read and journal through one of the gospels, then meet to exchange thoughts and share what each of you are learning.
  • Plan to attend a True Woman Conference. Better yet, work together to organize a group to attend from your church.
  • Help her find biblical resources that will grow her beyond where she is now.
  • Create a reading list for her based on Scripture passages and Christian books that have helped you in your spiritual pilgrimage.
  • Be a good listener and selfless communicator, always pointing her beyond you to Christ, her source of grace (don’t claim to know all the answers).
  • Laugh with her easily, and give hugs freely.
  • Challenge her to begin passing on the truths she’s learning to a younger (or less spiritually mature) woman.

These are just a few ideas to get you started. How about it?

Will you take the challenge?

Or perhaps you are already discipling a woman or being discipled. If so, I’d love to hear about what you’re doing. Please share!

Adapted from my True Woman blog post: 11.24.09

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One Comment

  • Vivian Etherington

    I have been disciplining a young woman for several months, she’s 19. First I had her read GIRLS GONE WISE, by Mary Kassian and the book of Ephesians. I have had her read through all of Paul’s epistles. She is also now reading PURSUIT OF GOD, A.W. Tozer. I have helped her with looking online at Christian colleges, composing letters to people for whom she is burdened and wants to share how God has worked in her life, sharing the Gospel with them, and working through conflicts in relationships. We talk about everyday stuff and struggles with sin; and we discuss the Scripture and what she is learning, how she is changing. It is a very rewarding thing to be used of The Lord in someone’s life! Thank you, Kim (again) for your investment!!