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A Quick Peek at the Book

LeRoy and I are working together on a resource for husbands. I’ve asked you to pray for us as we’re pounding the keys and it occurred to me, that it might help you to intercede if you were able to actually get a “peek” inside the covers! This is just a simple chapter summary, but I hope it provides you with prayer-fuel!

Every week we hear from hurting husbands and wives. So much pain. So much destruction. And such need for God’s power to be seen.

God created the marriage relationship as a beautiful metaphor of His great love; a visible picture of the gospel—but the world is not seeing that in our marriages. How we need a marriage revolution. God is able. He can bring transformation. May He guide our hearts and minds as we put together content that will speak to couples and be used by the Spirit to bring about a powerful display of His glory!

The title of the book is:

Men Who Love Fierce Women: The Power of Servant Leadership in Your Marriage

And here is a brief chapter summary:

Chapter 1:  The Courageous Leader Within

We discuss the leadership responsibilities that God gave to Adam in Genesis 1–2 combined with practical application for husbands today. Chapter 1 provides a list of “Characteristics of the Courageous Leader” that will (hopefully) inspire husbands to live out their design and calling as providers, protectors, and spiritual leaders.

Chapter 2:  The Passive Deserter

We talk about the destructive relationship pattern that develops between a “fierce woman” and her husband and share how this pattern almost destroyed our marriage. In this chapter, we give a contrasting list to the one in the last chapter: “Characteristics of the Passive Deserter.”

Chapter 3:  Anything You Can Do, She Can Do Better!

We address the cultural trend of women “out-performing men” and explain how competition between the sexes has the potential to negatively impact your marriage. We refer to the “EMASCULATION” acronym (which I use in Fierce Women) and share with husbands the common struggle we wives have with controlling or intimidating the men in our lives.

Chapter 4:  Trapped in the Hurt Locker

In this chapter, LeRoy defines the common destructive components that are at work within the man’s heart and explains how those tendencies contribute to the “fierce woman/fearful man” relationship dynamic. LeRoy shares the utter hopelessness he experienced during the darkest season of our marriage (before he learned to recognize these destructive components). LeRoy’s transparency allows the reader to know that he really does understand their pain and I know his encouragement will provide husbands with hope.

Chapter 5:  Run Into the Battle

LeRoy challenges men to battle the destructive components that we introduced in Chapter 4 (Pride, Passivity, Ingratitude, and fear). This chapter provides biblical principles and practical help for tackling that challenge, combined with personal testimonies from husbands who’ve struggled in the past but have found victory in their marriage.

Chapter 6:  What Your Wife Needs Most

This chapter introduces the “PROTECTION” acronym (which corresponds with the “APPRECIATION” acronym in Fierce Women). The acronym provides practical application for the chapter’s content. We introduce the first letter of the acronym in this chapter (P: Pray like a Warrior). Each chapter is filled with personal examples and illustrations of applying the content.

Chapter 7:  God’s Got This!

The acronym topics for this chapter begin with the foundation for the marriage relationship: the gospel. This is followed with developing healthy communication skills (R: Run to the Cross; O: Open Your Mouth).

Chapter 8:  How She Wants You to Love Her

This chapter encourages husbands to cultivate servant-leadership. We encourage husbands to become a student of their wife by learning their wife’s “Love Language” and to serve her through cherishing her (T: Tenderly Lead; E: Enter Her World; C: Cherish Your Woman).

Chapter 9:  Man-to-Man

The acronym topics for this chapter lead men to consider whether they’ve failed to take responsibility as the protector, provider, or spiritual leader in the home. LeRoy addresses the issue of developing true intimacy (emotionally, sexually, and spiritually). This chapter deals with some tough stuff as he challenges men to T: Take Responsibility and I: Intimately Connect.

Chapter 10:  Never Go AWOL

The husband may still reside in the home, but he’s deserted his post emotionally and given up on the marriage. We challenge that man to O: Open Your Heart (be receptive to the lessons God wants to teach you) and N: Never Give Up.

Chapter 11:  What’s the Big Deal about Marriage, Anyway?

This chapter corresponds with the content that I addressed in Fierce Women Chapter 11 concerning God’s plan for marriage and the crucial role it plays in displaying the gospel. It moves the marriage relationship beyond the personal realm to the transcendent and provides inspiration for tackling the challenges of a difficult marriage.

Chapter 12:  On the Threshold of a Glorious Beginning

There is hope for a new beginning. We weave our story throughout the entire book to provide an example of how God rescued a hopeless marriage. This closing chapter encourages the defeated man to step up to the plate of leadership, to grab onto God’s will, and watch Him display His power.

Will you join us in praying for God to use this resource for His glory?

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18 Comments

  • Tambra LucaS

    This book looks like it is going to be phenomenal tool to redirect marriages from devastation and with no hope to great encouragement, hope and restoration for so many! I am praying for you guys on this and can’t wait to read! I know several hands that I can personally put this to! God will bless this!!!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you so much for your prayers, dear friend! Your intercession means so much, you are a true prayer warrior and the first to encourage us to write a book!

    Love you ~

  • Leonor

    What an amazing tool! Praying!!!
    There is indeed so much hurt, so many
    couples will be so bless and restored!! I pray that, The God
    of all grace pour out his infinity wisdom
    In this labor of love!
    God is good,!!
    Leonor

  • Nilsa

    Oh this is great news!! I am currently reading your book and my goodness it has been a tremendous blessing. Thank you so much for pouring out your heart and your willingness to share your story. This book will be a blessing to many men. I can’t wait for it to come out so that I can buy it for my husband. May the Lord continue to bless you and LeRoy as you both pour out your hearts to help couples and and marriages.

  • Vivian Etherington

    Wow! Looks great! I am praying! May you be strengthened each day, unified in your thoughts, led by the Spirit, and experience a real sense of His presence as you write!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you for praying, Leonor ~

    Yes, God is good and I’m so grateful for experiencing the abundant goodness He has stored up (Ps. 31:19). Please pray for our writing time to be productive in these final days as we push toward the deadline to turn in the manuscript to Moody!

    Blessings, friend ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello, Viv ~

    Thank you so much for your encouragement and continual intercession. We are so grateful!

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Pray for that!! We can ask 🙂

    Thank you for the encouragement, friend. So grateful and good to hear from you, missed you this week!

  • Pauline Butler

    I’ve been praying for you, Kim. Thank you for this glimpse into the book. Fierce Women was great, and I can tell this one is going to be as well. Oddly enough, when I read Fierce Women, much of what you described seemed to apply more to my husband than to me. I think I’m going to reread it. It would be interesting to see whether I still see things in the same light or not. I’m looking forward to this book, and I hope my husband will want to read it as well. Keep looking unto Jesus~~~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you, Kelly! Please pray for us to be sensitive to God’s direction as we write, and for our time for writing to be protected and productive.

    Blessings ~

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you, Nilsa ~

    Thank you for sharing how God is using the book in your life. Please pray for us as we write! 🙂

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello, Pauline ~

    Thank you so much for your encouragement (as always). I’d love to hear what you think, and how God speaks to you, after you read “Fierce Women” again 🙂

    We appreciate your prayers as we pound the keys!!

  • Michael

    Thank you for the quick peek at the book. I am waiting anxiously for it’s release and think it will be incredibly helpful. Thank you for your efforts thus far.

    I just ordered your previous book. Apparently it’s rather popular as it was out of stock.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Thank you, Michael, for your encouragement. We appreciate your prayers . . . still much pounding of the keys, and seeking God as we write, going on here!