LeRoy and I are working together on a resource for husbands. I’ve asked you to pray for us as we’re pounding the keys and it occurred to me, that it might help you to intercede if you were able to actually get a “peek” inside the covers! This is just a simple chapter summary, but I hope it provides you with prayer-fuel!
Every week we hear from hurting husbands and wives. So much pain. So much destruction. And such need for God’s power to be seen.
God created the marriage relationship as a beautiful metaphor of His great love; a visible picture of the gospel—but the world is not seeing that in our marriages. How we need a marriage revolution. God is able. He can bring transformation. May He guide our hearts and minds as we put together content that will speak to couples and be used by the Spirit to bring about a powerful display of His glory!
The title of the book is:
Men Who Love Fierce Women: The Power of Servant Leadership in Your Marriage
And here is a brief chapter summary:
Chapter 1: The Courageous Leader Within
We discuss the leadership responsibilities that God gave to Adam in Genesis 1–2 combined with practical application for husbands today. Chapter 1 provides a list of “Characteristics of the Courageous Leader” that will (hopefully) inspire husbands to live out their design and calling as providers, protectors, and spiritual leaders.
Chapter 2: The Passive Deserter
We talk about the destructive relationship pattern that develops between a “fierce woman” and her husband and share how this pattern almost destroyed our marriage. In this chapter, we give a contrasting list to the one in the last chapter: “Characteristics of the Passive Deserter.”
Chapter 3: Anything You Can Do, She Can Do Better!
We address the cultural trend of women “out-performing men” and explain how competition between the sexes has the potential to negatively impact your marriage. We refer to the “EMASCULATION” acronym (which I use in Fierce Women) and share with husbands the common struggle we wives have with controlling or intimidating the men in our lives.
Chapter 4: Trapped in the Hurt Locker
In this chapter, LeRoy defines the common destructive components that are at work within the man’s heart and explains how those tendencies contribute to the “fierce woman/fearful man” relationship dynamic. LeRoy shares the utter hopelessness he experienced during the darkest season of our marriage (before he learned to recognize these destructive components). LeRoy’s transparency allows the reader to know that he really does understand their pain and I know his encouragement will provide husbands with hope.
Chapter 5: Run Into the Battle
LeRoy challenges men to battle the destructive components that we introduced in Chapter 4 (Pride, Passivity, Ingratitude, and fear). This chapter provides biblical principles and practical help for tackling that challenge, combined with personal testimonies from husbands who’ve struggled in the past but have found victory in their marriage.
Chapter 6: What Your Wife Needs Most
This chapter introduces the “PROTECTION” acronym (which corresponds with the “APPRECIATION” acronym in Fierce Women). The acronym provides practical application for the chapter’s content. We introduce the first letter of the acronym in this chapter (P: Pray like a Warrior). Each chapter is filled with personal examples and illustrations of applying the content.
Chapter 7: God’s Got This!
The acronym topics for this chapter begin with the foundation for the marriage relationship: the gospel. This is followed with developing healthy communication skills (R: Run to the Cross; O: Open Your Mouth).
Chapter 8: How She Wants You to Love Her
This chapter encourages husbands to cultivate servant-leadership. We encourage husbands to become a student of their wife by learning their wife’s “Love Language” and to serve her through cherishing her (T: Tenderly Lead; E: Enter Her World; C: Cherish Your Woman).
Chapter 9: Man-to-Man
The acronym topics for this chapter lead men to consider whether they’ve failed to take responsibility as the protector, provider, or spiritual leader in the home. LeRoy addresses the issue of developing true intimacy (emotionally, sexually, and spiritually). This chapter deals with some tough stuff as he challenges men to T: Take Responsibility and I: Intimately Connect.
Chapter 10: Never Go AWOL
The husband may still reside in the home, but he’s deserted his post emotionally and given up on the marriage. We challenge that man to O: Open Your Heart (be receptive to the lessons God wants to teach you) and N: Never Give Up.
Chapter 11: What’s the Big Deal about Marriage, Anyway?
This chapter corresponds with the content that I addressed in Fierce Women Chapter 11 concerning God’s plan for marriage and the crucial role it plays in displaying the gospel. It moves the marriage relationship beyond the personal realm to the transcendent and provides inspiration for tackling the challenges of a difficult marriage.
Chapter 12: On the Threshold of a Glorious Beginning
There is hope for a new beginning. We weave our story throughout the entire book to provide an example of how God rescued a hopeless marriage. This closing chapter encourages the defeated man to step up to the plate of leadership, to grab onto God’s will, and watch Him display His power.
Will you join us in praying for God to use this resource for His glory?
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