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The Hardest Conversation We Ever Had

We fell in love, got married, and lived happily ever after. Well, not exactly. We did “fall in love” in the way most young couples do . . . not really understanding what love is. Even though we were young and immature, we believed that God had brought us together and we committed our lives to one another, but still we didn’t have a clue about real love.

No one ever enters marriage expecting that relationship to end up in misery.

Five years into our marriage, LeRoy let me know he no longer loved me.

Are you there now? Have you lost all hope?

We want to extend some hope today, and encourage you to see what God can do!

If you know someone who is struggling in their marriage today, will you share this video post with them?

There is reason for hope. God delights in doing more than we can imagine!

[box]Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen. (Ephesians 3:20–21)[/box] 

4 Comments

  • Brenda Coffin

    Thank you for your video. Parts of it I could relate to Kim in being a fierce woman.
    I also have a husband that shuts me down, discounts what I am saying, procrastinates and avoids issues and the family’s needs when the kids are growing up. It is hard not to be a fierce woman when he doesn’t take his role seriously. He drinks too much alcohol, lives with ADHD and not learning the lessons, and repeating the same behaviors. He does not lead in our home spiritually nor does he want to pray in front of our kids, talk to our son about not living with his girlfriend, and he has run from God throughout our marriage.

  • Kathryn

    HMMMM. Ouch. I do not consider myself a “fierce” woman as I am not a type A personality. I am the middle child of three girls and always saw my older sister as the type A, highly intelligent, fierce woman…….but I see now that “fierce” woman come in all personality packages and after talking with my wonderful husband…he simply smiled and told me very gently that I was fierce in my own way. Big sigh!! I am now adding your new book to my collection. I have so much to learn. THANK YOU Kim and Leroy. God Bless You.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello, Kathryn ~

    Yes, I believe that within every woman’s heart resides some form of fierceness, it’s just expressed differently. As you read the book, you’ll see that the destructive fierceness I’m describing is the “unsanctified” will of a woman, either before Christ or a believer who is in need of growth and the Spirit’s gracious refinement. But God delights in taking the strengths He designed us with and transforming us into another kind of “fierce woman” one who displays His beauty and grace and is empowered by His Spirit to stand in the spiritual battle and is a life-giving, iron-sharpening-iron wife, friend, mom, and co-worker.

    Thanks for the comment, I look forward to hearing how God uses the book!

  • elicia

    Hi, Im so glad a came across your site. My husband of 10 years recently had an affair. I’m devastated. We have two little kids. I am a strong believer, my husband is not and is in some sort of midlife crisis. I didnt know it but he said he had stop loving me….I am a fierce person. So much has come out that he never ever said to me, it took an affair to have it come out that he felt dominated by me etc. And that I was too taken up with our children. He’s been back for 5 months now, but we are not doing better, worse even. He blames me for his affair, I’m trying to grown in areas where I have failed but he’s stuck in a place and refuses to go to counseling or move forward. He’s in a cycle of shame and pride which keeps him down but also unable to empathize with the pain he’s caused me. I would like our marriage to be reconciled and know that I have so much I am willing to work on in the ways I have failed. He agreed to this but now refuses to attend counseling with me I have been loving and kind to a man who in many ways has become my emotional enemy. I’m in so much pain. Jesus has become so close to me and for that I am so grateful. Any words? I’d welcome them.