Sending Love to Those Who Are Alone Today

If you’re reading this post on Thursday, November 24, 2016, I’m wondering whether you’re all alone. Today is an important holiday in the U.S. A pretty important one, in fact—it’s my favorite holiday. And most will be too busy to jump online and read a blog  . . . unless you’re spending the holiday solo.

If that’s you—welcome, friend. I’m praying for you.

I love that today is set aside to actually focus on giving thanks. When I had little ones at home, they would recite Psalm 100 together before the meal and we’d talk about why we’re thankful. I’m all about family fun, eating together, playing games, catching up on conversations and staying so long at grandma’s house that you get to do the meal for the “second time around” that evening.


But, like I said . . . If you’re reading this post today . . . you may not be experiencing anything like what I’ve just described and it could be that you’re longing for family and community but that’s just not an option, and you’re spending today all alone.

Let me say first of all, I am sorry—I am sorry for your isolation. I am sorry you are experiencing a lonely and painful season.

But let me also encourage you with this truth: You are NOT alone.

If you’ve entered into a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, He is abiding with you. There in the lonely hours, the dark nights, the empty and quiet spaces . . . He abides with you.

[box]Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love. “If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love.” These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full. (John 15:9 –11)[/box]

I know you’re probably thinking . . . but I want someone with skin . . . someone who will reach out and give me a hug, will ask how I’m feeling, will talk to me and care about me . . .

Those are natural desires and there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way—unless those desires have become demands that are keeping you from experiencing the joy of your relationship with Christ. If you’re alone today, let me share with you some things I’ve done when I’ve been totally alone on a special day (yes—I’ve spent a birthday or two totally alone and many nights completely on my own).

  • Look for someone you might reach out to that is also alone today—give them a call and see how you might bless them.
  • Light a scented candle, put on some of your favorite worship music, and pull out an old favorite to read.
  • Take part in celebrating the significance of this holiday by starting a “Giving Thanks List”—try to see how many things you can list that you’re grateful for and as you do, lift up prayers of praise for God’s goodness to you.
  • See if there is a local shelter or ministry where you can volunteer and use this day to bless those who are in need. (On a recent birthday, every single family member was out of town—but I was so blessed by getting to do prison ministry that day).

Some of my richest experiences have been when I take advantage of the “alone hours” to spend time just talking to the Father about all that’s on my heart and connecting with Him through worship. If you haven’t had an extended time yet today to do that, I encourage you to open your heart to His now.

He cares, He’s listening . . . and He’ll be delighted to share His heart with you.

How are you spending today?

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  • Gail

    Happiest of Thanksgivings to you and yours. I love reading your posts, when I have time. I was up early today getting ready the meal for just 3 of us. I too feel for the lonely, and would love to give them a hug. This year we went through so too busy times for several weeks and I was just TIRED. So, selfishly I am just going to cook, clean up and REST. It is quiet right now, and I am ready to do some Bible study! I love the quiet as there is not much of that very often. So I do feel for the lonely and pray Jesus will fill the void till they can one day have His face ever before them! That is our desire too. We can feel lonely in a crowd at times. May God fill your hearts with His Thanksgiving and living! God bless each one!


    Happy Thanksgiving to you as well Kimberly. I am alone, partly choice partly forced. My wife of 22 years AND my 17 yr old daughter filed for divorce stating that I’m abusive and they took out an order of protection against me. That was on June 21 and I haven’t been aloud to see them since. I was given permission to get my daughter a present for her birthday last week but I had to drop it off at the Attys office, I hope she liked it. Any one who knows our situation can’t understand why she’s doing this. Since I’ve read Leroy’s book I think I’m getting a better picture. Relationships are something you need to manage to her and if you can’t get it up to you standards then it’s time to let it go and move on.
    It’s not all doomed though. Today I woke up and took a breath, thank you Lord. Jesus died and cleared the path for me to be a child of the Almighty God, thank you Jesus. He showed me, and continues to show me, how to love me wife even when she’s treating me like this, thank you again my Mighty Savior.
    God has brought me to this valley to give me the spiritual work out I so desperately needed so I will be the man of God he created me to be for Him for my wife and for my daughter. Every little ridge I pray gets me to the top of the mountain but He still hasn’t decided it’s time for a view yet. But He’s here encouraging me with every step,push, pull and fall, you said you wanted Me to be the most glorified in this and you can do it. My faith gets a little stronger, I trust Him a lot more and I can say I truly believe that He is LORD of all and hopelessness is for those not chosen, yet another reason to say thank you El-Shaddai, El-Kanna, Adonai!

    Thank you for your prayers.

    PS any chance the 2 of you are coming to the Nashville area any time?

  • Pauline Butler

    My heart always longs to reach out to someone who may be alone or in need. I praise God that He has given me that heart of compassion. We have had the privilege of inviting someone into our home or taking a meal to someone on previous Thanksgivings, and it is such a blessing. Nevertheless, this is a time of year (the holidays) that I find myself struggling emotionally and spiritually. Without fail, a cloud seems to hover over me, and I find myself wrestling with self-pity and feelings of loneliness. But praise be to God and the power of His Word! Praise Him for His indwelling Holy Spirit who helps me to turn my eyes to the Lord and Truth, eventually changing my perspective and turning my thoughts to praise and gratitude–a place of worship–changing my heart from focusing on what isn’t to all that I have been given, to all that I have in Christ Jesus. The Lord reminded me this morning of what Helen Keller said, “So much has been given me, I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied.” I am alone right now, but I am no longer feeling lonely. I am privileged to be able to prepare a meal for my husband, son, mother-in-law and her friend. May God be glorified in my home today. Praying that God will minister and bestow His amazing grace on those who are alone or who may be feeling lonely in the midst of a crowd. For those who may be mourning the loss of a loved one, may He speak comfort to their hurting hearts. He truly is able to breathe new life into your soul. Happy Thanksgiving, Kim!

  • Julie Musil

    Happy Thanksgiving, Kimberly! This Thanksgiving is definitely unusual, but we are so blessed and thankful in the midst of it all. I will be serving at a homeless outreach today, and I’m looking forward to it. God is on the move, and although I don’t like difficult circumstances, I appreciate where they’ve led. Enjoy your day!