For My Sisters Who Need to Be Loved

(Guest Post by Molly Hilbert)

From the first day this website went live, I’ve been privileged to have Molly serve as the Website Administrator. I actually first “met” Molly when she left a comment on one of my True Woman blog posts. That was back in the day when Molly was a single teen. Now, she’s married to her college sweetheart (both are graduates of Moody Bible College) and has experienced a bit more life and grown in her walk with God beyond those teen years. Molly is a young woman with a heart and passion for God and a willingness to serve others for His glory.

For almost five years, Molly has poured herself into ministering to women and spreading God’s glory through serving you, the readers of this site. Every aspect of the technical operations of the website is taken care of by Molly. Week in and week out she loads the posts, she finds pictures to go with those posts, approves comments, she forwards emails to me when necessary, and she serves as a huge blessing and encouragement in my life! She also has life-lessons to share through her gift of writing. If you’ve followed the blog for very long, you know that I occasionally invite her to drop off a guest post on the blog, so today, you’ll be blessed to hear her share some personal moments with us . . . here is my dear friend, Molly ~

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[box]“Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out,

‘Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe himself with fine linen, bright and pure’ – for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.

And the angel said to me, ‘Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.’ And he said to me, ‘These are the true words of God.’”
-Revelation 19:6-9[/box]

Honestly, I don’t remember many of the details of my wedding day. I do remember waking up that morning so excited to finally marry my best friend. I remember being so thrilled that many of the women who had such an influence in my life were standing beside me when I said, “I do.” I remember almost falling asleep when my hair stylist was doing my hair for my Big Day. I remember needing to take strong pain medication because of my broken ribs (hence, almost falling asleep and not remembering many of the details of my wedding day). I remember the sweet moment I shared with my mom when she put on my necklace, the same necklace she wore when she married my dad. I remember the special moment I shared with my dad right before I walked down the aisle, when he asked me if I was ready and I said “I think so” and he took my arm and began walking me to the man I would marry.

However, out of all of the moments of that sacred day, this next moment is the one that I remember and cherish most. As I stepped from behind the bridal tent and looked up through my veil at the man who waited at the end of the aisle for me, my world stopped. The way he looked at me with such love and desire and anticipation was astounding to me. Any other man could have looked at me that way and it wouldn’t have mattered. This man – the one standing at the other end of the aisle – knew me deeper and more intimately than any other man ever had and yet he still looked at me like that. He knew my deepest sins, sins that had hurt even him. He knew the darkest parts of me, parts of me that burdened him. He knew me and yet he still looked at me like that, with those eyes full of love and a smile full of awe and wonder. This man that looked at me like that knew more than any other man (or woman) how ugly my heart can be, and yet I have never felt so beautiful in all my life than in that moment.

This moment has become a still photo in my mind that every time I revisit makes me feel cherished and loved and beautiful all over again. Those of you who have loved and have been loved like this know the feeling of this moment well. You can see the deep love and emotion that you feel reflected in the face of the one whom you feel that way about. I am convinced that this is one of the greatest and deepest human emotions that the Lord has blessed us with the ability to feel.

But maybe a man has never looked at you like that. Maybe this is something you long for, something you have always wanted and have never been given. Or maybe a man used to look at you like that, but no longer does because of a broken relationship or a painful loss.

I’m here to tell you that there is a Man – greater than any human man you have or ever will have a relationship with – who knows you more than any other and yet He loves you more than any other. A man who sees your every secret decision, who knows your every dirty thought, and who hears your every whispered (or not) cuss word. A man who knows the depths of your sinful heart and the most evil, hurtful thing you’ve ever done… and He loves you more than you have ever or could ever be loved.

This is the Man who loved so much that He crossed cultural boundaries to spend time with a woman that he wasn’t even “supposed” to talk to (John 4). The Man who did not condemn the adulterous woman when the “religious leaders” did (John 8:1-11). The Man who let the woman whom everyone else called “unclean” touch His garments and be healed… and then even called her “Daughter” (Mark 5:25-34). The Man who let a prostitute wipe His feet with her tears when the “religious leader” he was visiting with rebuked it (Luke 7:36-50). The Man who loved His earthly mother so much that among His last words were instructions to make sure she was taken care of after He left (John 19:26-27).

This Man – Jesus Christ – loves you like that. He loves me like that. Deeply, passionately, intimately. I am here to tell you, friend, that just like the unclean woman, the prostitute, the adulteress, and the outcast, there is nothing you could have done that could change His love for you. There is nothing you could have done that would have “voided” your invitation to the Marriage Supper of the Lamb spoken of in Revelation 19.

[box]“…if My people who are called by My name humble themselves, and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14).[/box]

It’s time to humble ourselves and seek His face. Yes, all of our sin – all of our shameful thoughts and actions – are ugly and wicked in the sight of our righteous Heavenly Father with whom evil cannot dwell (Psalm 5:4). Yet this Man – Jesus Christ – has made provision for us through His sacrificial death to approach Him and dwell with Him. He rejoices over us with singing (Zephaniah 3:17) and calls us His children (John 1:12). Sisters, we are loved by God (1 Thess. 1:4)!

[box]“Let us rejoice and exult and give Him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His Bride has made herself ready…” (Revelation 19:7).[/box]

In light of this future marriage of the Lamb, how are you and I making ourselves ready? There is no need to wallow in shame and regret. Yes, we must fall to our knees and admit our wicked and sinful ways, but then we must get up and walk with Him and serve Him and love Him because He loves us oh so much more than we will ever be able to understand. He looks at us like we are the most beautiful creatures He has ever made or laid His eyes upon. Let Him draw you to Himself – no matter how “unclean” or sinful or unacceptable you may feel. He loves beyond that.

[box]And the angel said to me, ‘Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.’ And he said to me, ‘These are the true words of God.’”
-Revelation 19:9[/box]

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  • Sandra Diehl

    Thank you, I needed this today. I have been doing my best to focus on God’s love over me and for me to give more of myself to loving God. I feel so unloved from my husband of soon to be 39 years. He refuses to make love to me for 10 months now and does not show me love. He will say the words I love you but they mean nothing to me since I know he care, thoughts and love are not for me. My heart is so broken and I pray and pray for our marriage to be restored. It is hard to keep on hoping. I stay in the marriage because of my love for my husband and my comment to him and to God. I so long to be loved and to be enjoyed and happy again. Thank you for reminding me where to focus.

  • Kimberly Wagner

    Hello, dear Sandra ~

    I am so sorry for your pain. Let me assure you that God has unfailing love for you and He sees every tear that falls. We continue to lift you and Bill in prayer and know that God is able, but if nothing in your circumstance improves, I pray that you will experience peace and joy because of your close relationship with Christ.

    My hope is that you can have a spiritually mature couple in your lives who will come alongside you to challenge you and present a model for you to follow in your relationship. I hope that Bill will read our book, but if he doesn’t, I pray that God will stir and soften his heart.

    Thankful that you are still plugged in here, and I hope you are encouraged.

    “Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21)

    Much love and prayers for you ~

  • admin

    Sandra, I am so sorry to hear about this situation you are in. I am stopping to pray for you now, that the Lord will bless your commitment to Him and that He will soften your husband’s heart. I pray that the Lord will make His presence so known to you through the comfort and peace He gives you. May the riches of His love rest on you even and especially in those moments when you feel unloved by the man you have committed your life to… and may God continue to give you grace upon grace to love him. Thank you for your comment, Sandra, and know that you are loved and prayed for.