• Needing Help to Solve Relationship Conflicts?

    Conflicts happen between the best of friends and family. That’s the sad reality of living in a fallen world. But it seems to happen just as much within the Church. I’ve seen enough Church conflicts to notice that the “gift of discernment” can be misused, or add to the complications in a conflict. If you think you have the “gift of discernment” when it comes to relating to people, be careful that you don’t assume to know someone else’s heart. Only God knows the motives of the heart. We can evaluate actions, and should be attentive to coming alongside a friend who has a blind spot, but we don’t know another person’s…

  • Slanderers Don’t Typically Ask Your Forgiveness

    When we stopped at the local diner to grab a quick lunch, we weren’t expecting to witness a prisoner being set free. We had no idea that we’d see repentance. We weren’t expecting humility to show up over chips and salsa. We’ve all experienced it: the destructive force of gossip. Slander knows no bounds. It can ruin reputations, destroy public trust, and rob the good name of a man of integrity. Those who hold leadership positions are understandably prone to public scrutiny and should be held accountable for misconduct. But what about those who are faithful, trustworthy servants who endure the diabolical smearing of their reputation because of a few well-placed innuendoes…

  • We Are a Cranky Bunch

    I’ve been a pastor’s wife for more than thirty years now, and there is one characteristic I’ve witnessed in most churches. For people who’ve been given loads of grace, and shown undeserved mercy at the cross, we can be a cranky lot. And easily offended. I’m not talking about my church in particular. I’m talking about Christians in general. Read the blogs and the Twitter feeds, stop in at a local Baptist business meeting (no, I really wouldn’t suggest that), or think about how many “church fights” you’ve witnessed through the years (don’t dwell on that too long). We are too easily offended! Drama Queens abound! Why is that? We could all…