Reaching the Silent Sufferers

Reaching the Silent Sufferers

There is a very good chance that you walked past someone in church last Sunday who has been sexually assaulted—but has never shared that with anyone. According to the Department of Justice, one in four women, and one in six men, are sexually abused in their lifetime. Throughout almost four decades of ministry, I’ve found that most people hide their abuse, are ashamed, and often blame themselves. They are the silent sufferers.

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Preparing a Safe Place for the Abused

Preparing a Safe Place for the Abused

Still the nightmares come. She knows the Word better than most. She’s committed to Christ—wants to live as a faithful woman of God—but her heart is weary and doubts assail her as the onslaught of horrific memories and pain continues . . . for years. For decades. And I want to be more than just a praying friend. I want to “fix it,” but I don’t have that power. Only One does.

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Lifting the Cover on Sexual Abuse

“Will I need to stand in front of the church and confess that I was hospitalized in a mental health facility?” At first I thought she was joking. She was not joking. She was dead serious. And when she asked that—I knew our church had failed. We had failed her terribly. The church adds to the trauma of sexual abuse when men and women are afraid to come forward, afraid to share their story, and afraid to confess that they no longer want to live. That’s when it is obvious that we, as a church, have failed the broken and hurting.

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The Reward of a Long History With Your Church

The Reward of a Long History With Your Church

This is the post I’ve wanted to write for months. There is so much I want to tell you, but it could not fit in this small space. Instead, I’m going to share only a small bit of what’s on my heart. I want you to know what a privilege it is to be part of a healthy and biblical body, and how grateful we are for our precious church. But what I really want you to know is that longevity matters.

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Playing with Playdough and Capturing Hearts

Playing with Playdough and Capturing Hearts

The tears kept coming, I couldn’t help it. I was posted at the back of our church, ready to dim the lights when the video played, but also watching for stray little ones that could come in late and might need to be led to the platform. It was our closing program for VBS and my heart was full. As I watched the little ones sing, jump, shout, and praise the Lord, my heart felt it would burst with love and longing. I long for these little ones to follow Christ and live passionately for Him. I long for them to be truth speakers in their generation! As they sang, I prayed. “Father, capture their hearts for Your glory!”

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